Weeks until ring is payed off...UNSURE

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Weeks until ring is payed off...UNSURE
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Thu, 12-22-2005 - 12:19am
I know for a fact that an engagement ring is weeks away from by boyfriend owning it. This is no new concept. We have been planning our life, we live together ( for almost a year ), have dated and worked through many things for three years, and our families know that it is "anytime now." BUT I'm freaking out. We truly love each other, and he is the nicest most nurturing man I've ever met, but when it isn't great, that is, when we don't LOVE each other, I could swear we hate each other. We have been through a lot already and have worked hard with therapists to get the communication, etc. primed for success, but it seems like while the fights are less volatile, they are harder to recover from - a numbness sets in that kind deeds and cuddling won't knead out easily. Intimacy has also dwindled. I think we are tired, both our lives are very stressful (I have school and two jobs, and he has partial custody of two kids), but I can't tell what to attribute to this distance. I have been very nervous lately about whether I can handle the "insta-family" or not but I'm not sure if I can blame it on that. I need to figure it out before the ring shows up........help
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 1:02pm

Sorry your post went unanswered so long... I just read it and wondered, #1) if you got the ring and proposal yet, and #2) if you did, what did you say?


But I'll assume you're still waiting.

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