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| Thu, 09-29-2005 - 12:48am |
i am confused. i need some opinions please! here's the backgound. i'm happy with my relationship with my BF right now, but a little short in the female friend department. i recently met a woman and we really seemed to hit it off. we have been hanging out maybe once or twice a week, and we just talk and talk about anything and everything. it's great!
so, this woman is openly bisexual although she doesn't make a huge deal about it. it's not a big deal to me either, although i admit i never had any close friends who were bisexual or lesbian before.
last saturday night we went out with a group of people, and we were all a little drunk hanging out in a bar, and she leaned over and told me that she bet she could sleep with any person in the place, male or female. i said, well maybe male but not all females go for that! she said, "yes they do, they just don't know it yet." she then proceeded to tell me the story about another (former) female friend of hers, who she had mentioned before that they had some sort of big falling out. apparently, what happened was that she went out clubbing with that friend one night and started getting a little freaky on the dance floor, and she ended up "feeling her up" on the cab ride home. she said the girl "loved it" at the time, but afterward would never speak to her again.
what is up with that story? i mean, if a guy started talking to me like that, i would definitely think he was hitting on me.... am i reading too much into it? was that just girl talk? this is why i'm confused.

If you can talk to her about anything, Tell her if your friendship is important to you. You might even want to tell her that you're a confident hetero and hope she doesn't challenge that, that it would make your important friendship with her awkward.
I was hit on by women a lot in college because I had short hair and dressed like a tom boy. Guys weren't flocking around me,but the girls were. Just like men, some were very polite when I said I wasn't interested , some were pushy.
My brother is gay and I have a lot of gay friends, too. Many of them have gone through a great deal personally to come to terms with their sexuality and can be very good to talk to even about hetero-relationships and feeling. She might remain a very good friend!
I'd wonder about her bragging like that. It sounds disrespectful and slutty to me no matter who it comes from. Do you have thoughts like that about men? Do you want friends with attitudes like that about other people?
Good luck!
Edited 9/29/2005 9:24 am ET ET by ubersilly