What did he mean by that?

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Registered: 02-07-2006
What did he mean by that?
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Wed, 03-01-2006 - 8:35pm

I've been living with my partner for a year and a half now (we did long distance for a year prior to that). We get on so well, he always takes care of me and I'm desperately in love with him.

Problem: recently I heard him on the phone to an old friend and he was talking about us. He said 'It's going well, and although there are no wedding bells in the air we get on great'.

What does that mean though? There are no wedding bells now? never? Am I wasting my time if he doesnt' want to marry me and I do want to get married? Am I silly to be getting upset about this?

Any thoughts would be appreciated....

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:52pm
Hon, only he knows what he meant. If I were you, I'd ask him.
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 9:08am

maccer2006...

PG completely agrees with iv_aisha's response.......ASK HIM!

But before you do....ask yourself if he's truly "the one man" you wish to spend the rest of your life with? Try to keep the romanticism angle out of things. Wives also have to accept their husbands on their "not so nice days!"

Good Luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 4:09pm

Please note you glazed right over the fact that

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Registered: 12-12-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 1:30pm

First, you are not at all silly for questioning his sentiments; however

Ask yourself:

-What are *your* expectations of the relationship? Does he know? Why was his quip to his buddy such a surprise?
-Do you feel like you've gotten to know this individual well enough that you would even want to marry him? Soon? Ever?

There's a "right time" to have every type of conversation. First, you have to be honest with yourself. If you really feel this is the guy for you, make sure he feels the same, so you're not spinning your wheels in vain.

There's usually never good reason to "rush" a relationship, but why be in a situation for *any* length of time if it isn't right for both?