what to do

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Registered: 04-04-2006
what to do
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:54am
i have known this guy for a few years and we are really good friends and get along well, and i think that we might have something. the problem with that is...i have a boyfriend, and i love him a lot, but sometimes i just feel that i would be better off with my good friend. every time i have issues with my boyfriend, my friend is always there to listen, but he gets frustrated with how my boyfriend treats me. he always says that we should have a talk, or i should just leave. and that brings me to my next problem...i don't know if i'm reading too much into what my best friend says and does. i mean, he is very physical with me, even when it is not really necessary. like, we will be watching tv in our big group and he will just stretch out and rest his feet on me or something...and thats just a little thing. he always finds an excuse to wrestle or touch me. and i always catch him staring at me...and once he even told me that he would love to find a girl like me. maybe he just wants me to be single? i do not know what to think or how to feel...and i cannot tell anyone else about this because i know it will find its way back to one of the guys involved. i just need an outsiders opinion .
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 5:54am

My rule of thumb has always been that you don't leave someone for someone else.

You've got to make up your mind about whether or not you want your relationship with your boyfriend. If you don't want him anymore, then break up - and by all means move on to your friend. The fact that you wrote "every time I have issues with my boyfriend" is a problem to start with. Are you aware that good relationships don't have loads of issues?

However, if you do want to stay with your boyfriend - you must break up your friendship with the other guy. You've already identified some inappropriate feelings between the two of you so it's time to nip it in the bud before you end up cheating. Then you've got to figure out what is missing in your relationship that makes another man appear so attractive to you.

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