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| Sun, 03-12-2006 - 10:52am |
Ok...here is the situation. I'm currently in a relationship with a man thats 8 years older than me and he already has a kid. We have been together a little over a month, but I haven't talked to him since we slept together over a week ago...he hasn't called and when I see him briefly in the parking lot he doesn't even acknowledge that I am there. I'm pretty sure I'm letting this one go. Ok, guy number 2...he is my ex and he is currently staying in the same house I'm staying at with my cousins. We are sleeping together and I think that all of the feelings I had for him are coming back. I really want to see if he still has feelings for me, but I don't want to come out and say that I think I'm falling back in love with him. Guy number 3...is one of my best friends and slowly I've been developing feelings for him, but he is one of those guys who wants to sleep with everyone but not date anyone. I need to find a way to get rid of the feelings I have for him and still be friends with him. Then to top of the situation...guy number 4...another guy I was involved with about 2 years ago and haven't seen in at least 1+ years came back into the picture last night. He had a kid while we were separated and he is unhappily engaged. He kept telling me that he was extremely unhappy and just ready to get out, so we switched numbers. He called me this morning but I missed his call. Should I keep talking to him even though he is engaged or should I just let go? I really just need some advice. Everyone just tells me things I already know...I need to get an opinion from someone who doesn't know any of us. Thanks!

It sounds to me that you just want to be with someone and you don't particularly care who it is; hence, your feelings for anyone who starts to pay attention to you.
I think you would be better off getting rid of all of the men in your life and focusing instead on yourself. Only once you know who you are and what you want, are you ready for a relationship with another man.
And the first thing you need to do is figure out the situation with your ex who you are living and sleeping with. You can't honestly expect any good relationship to blossom while you are living with him! Why are you two under the same roof? And if you're truly exes, while are you still sleeping together?
So, I recommend forgetting all of the other guys right now and come up with a plan to move out and move on with your life.
Good luck.