what to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2005
what to do?
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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 1:30pm
I've been dealing with this great guy for over an year and a half now. And he's still not ready for a relationship. This guy by the way works with me and I know that this one lady likes him. He takes her home after work but insist that he is only helping her out.Me and this guy hardly ever goes out we basically just have sex and thats at my house he never really invites me over to his but maybe because he stays with his mother. I'm so tired of waiting I' don't want to rush him into a relationship . I tired of the excuses of waiting till he gets his own house or wait till he pays off some of his bills. I'm only 24 but am ready to settle down what should I do He has been the only guy that I have been dealing with an I'm so emotionally attached to him it's so hard to let go what should I do ?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: rhomln
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 1:36pm
Run for the hills is what you should do. I know you have grown feelings for him but he is never going to be ready to settle down. Why should he when he is getting sex from you on his call and doesn't have to do the relationship things that guys only do to get us. He got you already why do more. Leave him because he will commit.



































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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: rhomln
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 1:56pm

Couldn't agree more.

This guy is using you for sex, pure and simple.

Wise up and the next time a guy wants to have sex with you and hasn't even asked you out on a real date, just say, "Oh, he11 no!!!"

I truly feel for you 'cause I know it hurts to hear, but use this as a learning experience and don't let it happen to you twice.

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Registered: 07-06-2003
In reply to: rhomln
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 6:08pm
Look, I was in this exact situation. If he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would be. I read: He's Just Not That Into You. It changed my life and the way I look at relationships. Trust me. If you actually look at him, you will probably see that it's not him that you want, it's someone period.