What do I do next???

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2005
What do I do next???
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:59pm

Even though I'm 42 years old, I'm recently divorced and new to all this dating scene. I don't know what the rules are anymore. There us a guy I like. I like him a lot. We usually spend every other weekend together (it's a kids and custody thing). We can talk for hours. And we have great sex. But I don't know how far to pursue him. After a date, I will e-mail him. Sometimes he will respond, sometimes not. I don't want him to think I'm chasing him into a corner or anything. But I also don't want him to think I don't like him. How do I know where to draw the line?

I am so confused?!?!?!?

Any advice?

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 4:03pm

Rule 1. Unless you two have agreed to exclusivity, sexual or r'ship wise, do NOT assume he's being exclusive.

As for what you're doing, I think it's okay. Emailing him after a date. Now, what bothers me is that sometimes he responds, sometimes he doesn't. HOWEVER, many gusy I know live by the, "if you dont' ask a question, I won't w/b". So, if you're only saying, "thanks" don't expect a reply, however, in my opinion, a nice guy would say he had a good time or SOMETHIGN!

I dunno. How else is this r'ship? Are you two just casually dating and having sex? How old is this guy? How long have you been dating?

There are so many factors that go into dating. but the big rules are....

Take care of you first. Don't assume anything. Actions speak louder than words, especially if they are contradicting said words. Many ppl are into FWB nowdays, so if you're not, watch out for falling into that kind of r'ship (hence the never assume).

Hugs. So far, it sounds like you're doing okay. Not overwhelming the guy, but also keeping in touch.

Question, is HE keeping in touch with you randomly? or only when you contact him? Just making sure he's being a good guy, not a slime ball.

~pineapple_girl