What do you think?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
What do you think?
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:06pm
do you think it's possible to meet "The One" while you are
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:43pm

I think it is possible to meet "TheOne" while you're already in a relationship. I think some people are in relationships for different reasons other than love unfortunately.

Some people "think" they are in love, but when the right person eventually comes along they realize they actually weren't.

Some people are in relationships because they just don't want to be alone (in my opinion, these kind of relationships are the ones who end up cheating on the other)

Some other people are in relationships because they just don't want to face the breaking up issue, not that they don't love the other person, they're just not "in love" with them.

I think casual dating or dating Mr./Ms. right now is fine, but it has to be decided by both of the people involved so that no one gets hurt. It can get a complicated if one or the other develops some feelings, but if it was agreed from the beginning there's nothing you can do about it I guess. It's just a chance someone would have to take.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:01pm

I've been grappling with this issue recently (although for the record, I don't believe in the concept of "the one"...I think there are many people who are potentially right for us).

I dated other people while I was in my last relationship, because it was long-distance and I wasn't willing to close myself off to other possibilities until I felt he was committed to the relationship (and for me that meant having a plan to move). But it was hard...I was in love with him so being open to dating others wasn't easy.

But I wonder if it makes a difference what type of relationship you're in. For example, I'm now in a casual relationship that isn't going to go anywhere (and frankly, I might break it off any day because of frustrations with his poor time management skills, LOL!), because when we're together it's fun and I'm so darn tired of dating...it's nice to spend time with someone where we're beyond the "getting to know you" small talk phase. But I am continuing to go on dates with other guys because I *do* want a serious relationship (and this guy doesn't). It's a little easier this time around because I'm not very emotionally invested with this guy, at least not yet.

Sheri