What does he want from me?

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Registered: 12-18-2004
What does he want from me?
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 5:46pm

This might get a bit long, so I apologize in advance.

I was friends with this guy for quite a while. About 6 weeks ago (New Years Eve) we hooked up and then started seeing each other, we were together almost every day. I was his first non one night stand since he broke up with his long term girlfriend about a year ago.

There were a couple times when I was drunk and freaked out a bit on him for not calling one day. I apologized and he said everything was fine. About 2 weeks ago he started acting a bit funny and said I needed to slow down, and then everything was fine, but a week ago, we ended up breaking things off. It was a huge fight and got pretty ugly. He told me that he never wanted a real

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:52pm

Jenna, he will do the same thing again if you do the same thing again. Ie; freak out if you don't hear from him for a day.

>>"yeah, new start. slow start? I just need my time." << It means he doesn't want the type of relationship where you *have to* talk each day.

So...moving on, you haven't heard from him today. And you're worried enough to post a message on a board. This is exactly what he doesn't want. He wants you to have enough confidence in him that you don't get concerned if he doesn't call.

It's also up to you. Is this the type of relationship you want? Or do you want something with a lot more contact? Because if it's the latter, he's not your guy....you'd have to choose someone else.