What is going on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-09-2008
What is going on?
Sun, 04-24-2011 - 9:40pm

This is for my daughter,because I do not know how to help her. Here is what happened. We went to a local restaurant for lunch and when we walked in,there was an instant connection between her and the host,even I felt it. The host,John,paid a lot of attention to my daughter and they exhanged numbers. He hugged her goodbye when we left and told her to text him. Well,to make a long story short,they texted back and forth and he came over 2 days later. He was here for 10 hours,in which he told us the following; he was a model for 3 months,he was trying out for a minor league baseball team in 3 weeks,he did not believe in cheating,he is a 1 woman man,and his parents raised him right. He is 19 and so is my daughter. John and my daughter went to her room to watch a movie and to talk,and she later told me he told her they were boyfriend and girlfriend. He has told her so many nice things: she's beautiful,he wants to make her happy,and they are toghether. The problem is,what he says and what he shows are 2 different things. He waits 2 hours,or more,to text her after work,he tells her he wants to see her,but he has a hard time finding the time. Is he for real?It seems too fast for me,and I think he is not being truthful. My daughter has been completely taken in by him. Please help!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 9:15am

Man ths is one of the reasons I don't miss being nineteen.

It's not possible for anyone here to tell you if this guy is for real or not. Most nineteen year old guys (I won't call them men...) don't have enough experience with women yet to know exactly what bait to hook them with, if they're not looking for a "real relationship", but also, I've known nineteen year old guys who have fallen "in love" just as hard as nineteen year old girls.

The bottom line is that she is becoming an adult and she has to learn how to date on her own, without your intervention. I know you want to help her, and to protect her, but from someone who was her age not terribly long ago, I have to tell you that this is part of growing up and learning. You can't do it for her.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 10:35pm

I think it's pretty hard to tell at this point--I don't really see a problem w/ him waiting 2 hours after work to text her--maybe he has things to do.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 8:36am

Just checking in with you to see how things are going.