What is he thinking?
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What is he thinking?
| Sun, 06-26-2005 - 4:48pm |
I hope someone can help me so I can stop thinking!!! Well, here is the beginning of the story. My boyfriend and I went on a cruise in April. Since we came back from the cruise, I have been staying at his house. He gave me a closet and slowly but surely, my belongings are all migrating to his house. I do not pay a bill and he wont allow me to. I dont quite understand why. Does anybody know?? The second part of the story is that the other day, we were sitting outside talking about the retro check that he is going to be getting in September. It is going to be for a large amount of money. Well, he told me that he is going to buy me something and then pointed to something that is the shape of a ring. I pretended like I didnt know what he was talking about. Later on that night when I came back home, he told me what he was going to buy...and sure enough, it was an engagement ring. Then he told me that "that isnt a promise though, just a thought." Now, what does that mean? Should I get my hopes up?? I hope someone can help me!! This is all I have been able to think about for days!!!

The only person who knows what it means is him. You can either make yourself nuts or you can learn to just roll with it. It sounds like the guy really likes you.
He may not be letting you pay the bills because he's a traditional sort of guy and wants to "take care of you". He may also be doing it because he's a slim ball who wants to dominate the relationship and as soon as your living with him he will tell you to quit your job he'll "take care of everything" and the next thing you know he's taken away any sense of power and self-esteem you have and has alienated you form all your friends and family.
The only way to tell the difference is to trust your instincts. Truthful I think you know excatly what is going on and are just scared and usure of how YOU feel about all this and are analyzing his one little commentment to death to distract yourself from the REAL issue you're facing. This man just might want to marry you and you'r not sure you are ready to take that step or your not sure you want it to be with him.
FYI- Chances are the reason he said, "that isnt a promise though, just a thought." might have been becasue he was sensing how uneasy it made you and he wanted to give you an out.
So stop analyzing him adn start analyzing you and figure out if you want to stay on this path and then talk to him about how you honestly feel about it.