What should be my next step?
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|Thu, 10-22-2009 - 4:24pm|
Just to set up a back story to this, I am about three months out of a four year relationship. My ex cheated on my with a girl he found online, came back to me after a weekend he spent with her, and a month later, was holding hands and walking into Victoria's Secret with a girl from his work. I ended the relationship right there, and feel like I've really made good progress in my life since getting rid of him, but there are still scars from having your first love do that to you, which I'm sure alot of women out there can relate to.
About a month after I broke up with my ex, one of my best friends introduced me to her boyfriend's roommate, who is also a very good friend of her's. I was attracted to him almost right away, but at the time, didn't really want to try for anything besides healing. However, the following weekend, he invited me over to his place for a party, and since then, we've hung out at least two or three times a week, which is really a lot for both us since I'm juggling two jobs, an internship, and school, and he works full time and goes to school too. It has escalated to the point where I stayed over at his apartment several times, and we have had sex twice. When we're together, it's really nice; he's always telling me how comfortable he is with me and has already introduced me to his best friend and told his mother about me. However, I'm having some big mental issues, and I'm just needing some advice on how to handle all this, or if I'm just blowing it out of porportion due to how my last relationship ended.
Another note on my guy is that he had gotten out of really terrible relationship about four months before we met. He was still talking with his ex even after the break-up though, but has since cut off communication with her after we met. However, he had to deal with her for several months wanted him to take care of her, even after they were broken up, and leading him on for a really long time. He doesn't really talk about it, but when it does come up, it's obvious that it still really hurts.
Okay, on to my issues, lol. I have a couple of questions, but any advice at all with what to do would be really nice.
First off, I'm not even sure if we're dating. I'm almost a hundred percent sure we are exclusively seeing each other, but we haven't dropped the boyfriend or girlfriend word once. I don't want to push him at all, since it's been my experience that that can scare guys away really quickly, but it is all very confusing for me.
Second, it's almost always me setting up our hang out times. Granted, I am the busier of the two of us, but I don't know if I should be worried. Our first few hang out plans