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| Thu, 10-27-2005 - 2:14pm |
3 weeks ago I took the advise offered by several. Take the initiative & ask out the neighbor. So I did & we went out, had dinner & drinks then spent the night together. Since then he will call & ask me to come over & see him. Which I have done. The sex is great. Only on one occasion did he come over to my house. When leaving in the morning, he peeked out of the blinds to see the neighbor on his front porch. I asked him why & he said that he didn't want anyone talking. I asked what about the other neighbor & was told that he doesn't matter. So he waited until no one would see him & ran across to the other side of the street & acted like he was walking from the girl across the streets house. I felt really insulted but didn’t say anything. A couple of days later, we were both walking over to my house, we had just had sex & the girl walked up & immediately he stepped away from me & stood beside her & started chatting her up while I’m feeling really put out. After she left, we went to my house & hung out with my son for awhile. When he went to leave he kissed me goodbye inside the house & I walked him outside the front door. Then he went to kiss me again but just before he leaned in, he looked around at the neighbors to see if anyone would see, then he kissed me. A friend asked him if we are a couple & he just replied that it makes it sound so official. He doesn’t ask me out anywhere unless our children are with us. He calls me every night but not until 9:30 or 10pm, when it’s convenient for him. Please advise! I need help! I'm worried that I'm not his only visitor.
Edited 10/27/2005 2:29 pm ET by k.louann
Edited 10/27/2005 2:29 pm ET by k.louann

Hey there...
My DS father was this way... At first I thought it was all in my head, I'm over reacting, or I'm being too jealous. Unfortunately/fortunately my instincts were right on... he was a player and in the worst way.
IMO, I think the guy is way too preoccupied with what the neighbors think... It's blatant that he wants to give the impression that he is single and available. The neighbors are not even his friends, even if they were, he should NOT be acting skittish...
You deserve a lot better than that, and your children are involved in this... Children can see more than we realize and I'm sure they've noticed his disrespect and cowardness.
I am willing to bet that this non-deserving man will come crawling once you find a decent, respectful, caring man to love you. And when he crawls back begging for another chance, you had better slam the door on his face (let the neighbors see that! LOL!)
Trust me, a worthy man would be proud to be seen with you. In fact, he will make darn sure everyone within eyesight sees that you are with HIM. You're worth being proud of!
Here's to you finding a decent and deserving man... As the old saying goes, "Men are like busses. You miss one, another one shows up 10 mins later."
All the best,
PoolDiva
Edited 10/27/2005 3:36 pm ET by pooldiva
I've only read the original post, but, if you are brave enough I suggest you ask the guy what is up.
The situation doesn't sound good at all. And if you like the guy then find out why he always has the caution radar on at all times.
Don't let yourself be the last to know.... that's the best advice I can give and that is only my opinion.