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what would you guys do?
| Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:18pm |
Hi:
Okay so for hose of you who know me.....me and my boyfriend broke up. He came back to me after 8 month and then after 2 he broke up with me over the phone. I'm 25 for God's sake who does that!!!!!!!! Anyway, he stated that he felt his feelings had changed and that he loved me but wasnt in love with me. I find this hard t believe since he came to my hose everyday after work to just hug and kiss me and every weekend we were together. he bought me teddy bears and flowers and balloons and jewelery and he just always texted me and called me to tell me he loved me. Then BOOM he's like it's over! This is how I feel now he says! THen he was like Iw ant to be alone and the last time I asked to be alone you didnt give it to me. This is true for 6 months i tried desperately to reach out to him and finally left him alone for 2 and then he came aknocking! He owed me money and so a week ago I spoke to him and told him to just give me the money he owed me and we would leave it at that. he went on to be like well then give me back the bracelt I got you! I was furious! He says how dare I ask him for that money when he bought me everything. I was like yeah but it was for your mothers mother's Day gift!!!!!!! Anyhow, I cried and told him how he left me for the last time. I found out from him and his mom that he is moving out with his co workers who all have serious girlfriends! When we were together and he mentioned this I was like um no. I just felt it was a waste of money when he had it so good at home. Anyhow, how convenient that he breaks up with me and now has no fonancial obligation to a girlfriend and then moves out! Well the reason I am posting is becasue since then I have been getting non stop restricted calls. Like 90% of the time I don't pick up and no one leaves a message. the other 10% of the time I pick up and they wait to hear my voice and then just hang up. I also got a song on my VM the other day about how I should listen to my heart b4 I tell him goodbye. Do you think it's him? I know it shouldn't matter but I still love the fool. My sisters think that it's him bc he's probably shocked that I havent called him, texted him, called his mom, visited him, etc like last time. I warned him when he asked me what I would do if he left me again. I clearly said youleave me again and don't you ever come looking for me!
Okay so for hose of you who know me.....me and my boyfriend broke up. He came back to me after 8 month and then after 2 he broke up with me over the phone. I'm 25 for God's sake who does that!!!!!!!! Anyway, he stated that he felt his feelings had changed and that he loved me but wasnt in love with me. I find this hard t believe since he came to my hose everyday after work to just hug and kiss me and every weekend we were together. he bought me teddy bears and flowers and balloons and jewelery and he just always texted me and called me to tell me he loved me. Then BOOM he's like it's over! This is how I feel now he says! THen he was like Iw ant to be alone and the last time I asked to be alone you didnt give it to me. This is true for 6 months i tried desperately to reach out to him and finally left him alone for 2 and then he came aknocking! He owed me money and so a week ago I spoke to him and told him to just give me the money he owed me and we would leave it at that. he went on to be like well then give me back the bracelt I got you! I was furious! He says how dare I ask him for that money when he bought me everything. I was like yeah but it was for your mothers mother's Day gift!!!!!!! Anyhow, I cried and told him how he left me for the last time. I found out from him and his mom that he is moving out with his co workers who all have serious girlfriends! When we were together and he mentioned this I was like um no. I just felt it was a waste of money when he had it so good at home. Anyhow, how convenient that he breaks up with me and now has no fonancial obligation to a girlfriend and then moves out! Well the reason I am posting is becasue since then I have been getting non stop restricted calls. Like 90% of the time I don't pick up and no one leaves a message. the other 10% of the time I pick up and they wait to hear my voice and then just hang up. I also got a song on my VM the other day about how I should listen to my heart b4 I tell him goodbye. Do you think it's him? I know it shouldn't matter but I still love the fool. My sisters think that it's him bc he's probably shocked that I havent called him, texted him, called his mom, visited him, etc like last time. I warned him when he asked me what I would do if he left me again. I clearly said youleave me again and don't you ever come looking for me!

It's probably him. And if he is this immature, you need to let this guy go. Love or no love, this will be your life. Breaking up, hurting, immaturity, getting even, getting back together, etc.
if you honestly can handle that for another 10 years, or even 60, great. If not, leave him be. Love isn't going to save the r'ship.
~pineapple_girl
I am assuming if you change it w/o the report,they'll rquire you to pay them a fee? If that's the case, I'd do it. Why not. I just hope know one you know would give him the number.
That or ask VZW if they can track the numbers. not sure if they can or not
~pineapple_girl
I totally agree with Delilah.
You're really just adding to the drama. And that's fine if you like drama and being upset and anxious all the time, some people thrive on drama, maybe you're one of them.
But if you're not and you'd like this vicious cycle to end, then just walk away. No police reports, no more explaining, or "figuring it out". You've figured out the vital part: it's bad for you. What more explanation do you need?
Just walk away. Take a breather, get some distance, then look back and figure out what went wrong, on YOUR end. Trying to sort it out while you're still living the drama day in and day out is next to impossible.
The truth is you can never absolutley know what another person is thinking or feeling, making yourself crazy analyzing it isn't going to change that. That's why you have to focus on yourself and sorting YOUR feeligns out and move on from there.
The truth is there are LOTS of things in life that we will NEVER understand. Learning to accept that certain things you just can't "know" and can't "understand" completely is just part of life, well at least it is if you don't enjoy being stressed and making yourself nuts trying to figure things out that you don't have enough information to "figure out."
It's tough to let go and not have all the answers, take it from a reforming control freak. Accepting you don't have all the answers and you never will offers a certain comfort and freedom that making yourself nuts trying to get the answers doesn't.
I used to think I just wasn't built that way. That I was never going to be able to stop obsessing and making myself nuts trying to answer everything and understand everything because if I did I thought I could control everything. What a joke, control everything. I have cotrol of one thing: me. Everything else is a crap shoot. Once I started figuring that out I started to not have to have all the answers so much. I started learning to trust myself more and not make myself so crazy over stuff I couldn't control.
You can't do anything about how he feels or doesn't feel. Even if he is calling who cares? It doesn't really change anything. He's still kind of a jerk. He's still not right for you. And somewhere deep down you know that. You're just trying so hard to find the answer to make it make sense that you're drowning out your own good judgement. Guess what, it's probably never going to make sense. If anything finding out it's him calling is only going to add to the confusion not make it go away, so why add to the drama?
Why do that to yourself?