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| Sun, 05-07-2006 - 10:20am |
i'm totally confused by this bloke.
a few years ago i started seeing him. he told me he was seperated from his wife.
we never really had what i would class as a 'relationship' as it would be a couple of weeks between dates. then it comes out that he and his wife are not separated and she was pregnant and wanting another try at things. this really cut me up, despite things never really going anywhere with him.
being insecure, i put it down to him not wanting me etc etc (as you do).
now just recently he has been back in touch with me. i've given into a less than better idea by going out and seeing him a couple of times.
once again, it tends to be a couple of weeks between dates, but we are both really busy people. there has been no mention of his (ex)wife. he claims not to have a mobile phone, only one for work and he never offers for me to go to his place. he certainly seems keen when we are together as i'm getting all the right signals. he just takes ages to sort things out about when we will see eachother next.
is it just that he needs to pull his act together, or am i missing something?
its getting to me as i really like the guy.
help?
una

una_momento...
Since you have such an interesting ivillage user name, Pianoguy would like to respond to your question in latin:
Qui Fabricator Fabricatoris!
The loose translation is: "HE WHO LIES IS A LIAR!"
And my dear, you chosen to align yourself with a good one! I'm willing to bet that a good portion of your man's "busy-ness" involves a few other women---besides yourself?
Pianoguy
i know he works strange shifts etc. amd he seems into me enough when we are together, he just seems reluctant to a) take things further or b) tell me that he's not looking for a relationship
Una, I'm guessing that you're Australian. Would I be right?
It's just that we Aussies tend to date differently to our American cousins, so I will adapt my advice accordingly.
RUN and RUN as fast as you can!
You see--even if he is not playing other women besides you and the wife/ex-wife(and it wouldn't surprise me if he was), the way I look at it is this, if he was willing to cheat on his wife with you, what would make you think he would not cheat on you eventually as well?
<<<>>> If it wasn't enough that he was cheating on his wife at the time it seems to me that he was a liar right from the begining. So simply put, this guy is bad news for more than one reason.
Betty