What's Going to Happen?

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Registered: 11-30-2009
What's Going to Happen?
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 4:59pm

I went on a blind date, and I felt something click. I doubt he did.. I can deal with that, it's happened more than once.


That was until the dreams started. About a year ago I had a dream with an unknown man and I walking in the city looking at Christmas lights, holding hands and enjoying anothers company. After my blind date, I've had two other dreams with that man, and he looks more and more like the guy I went out with.


I'm just short of obsessing over it, he hasn't called after the day after, or taken me up on an offer for another meeting after that (The usual "I had fun we should do that again" talk ensued a bit afterward and the day after but nothing after that).

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 6:50pm
You say you're usually the one in his position. From that perspective then, if you weren't interested in a guy, would you want him to keep contacting you and trying different ways to get you to like him if you didn't already?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 6:55pm
To be honest, no... Which is why I've stopped trying to
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 9:19pm
I think your natural instinct is like most of ours... When we feel rejected, we naturally want to fight harder to be wanted. It's ok to feel that way but the more you throw yourself at him, the less desirable you will be to him. It's also okay to not be someone's type - It's nothing against you. You know you're attractive to guys, you maybe just didn't do it for this one. That's totally okay even if it does hurt the ego a little bit. Nothing to be too concerned about.
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 12:44pm

How long since this first date?

I'd also let this one go. If he were interested, you would know by now and it would not have to do with reading "slight clues" on how long a hug went. He'd be actually calling you and saying hey what are you doing Friday night!

I'm not sure I'd call this "being played." It was a blind date. Lots of blind dates are just one time dates. Maybe he was just being nice and didn't want to flat out say to your face he wasn't interested. Or maybe he went home that night and decided he didn't feel anything.

I wouldn't read anything into the dreams either. They are just dreams.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 11:13pm

Honest?