whats your opinion

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Registered: 09-30-2005
whats your opinion
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:27pm
have benn with this guy for over a year.thought we both cared for each other. then the other day he tells me he has been talking to the woman i thought was his ex-wife . turns out they still married .they havet spoken in 4 years but are now talking about getting back together .she is also the one who kicked him out when they were a couple .what should i do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:41pm
Man, that is harsh, I am so sorry! I would advise moving on. If he was willing to just toss out a year-long relationship, you deserve better. It sounds like he still harbors hope that he and his wife will get back together AND he lied to you. Leave him, let him sort himself out, and if he comes crawling back, then you get to be the one to decide if you will forgive him or not.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:35am

Yuck. That is rough. I'm sorry.
It means two things though... #1, your relationship is not based on honesty. #2, you need to take a step back, now.

Once you step back and look at your relationship, there's a good chance you'll see other signs that you missed before. At this point, you can't trust him. You need to protect yourself. Don't forget that.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:34am
That's harsh! You didn't deserve that. He really betrayed your trust. Let him be with his wife and see what happens. In the meantime, live your life and try and heal. I guess that's why I always do serious detective work to avoid things like that. People say that you need to trust and not be psycho but when things like this are done to us women it just confirms that detective work does need to be done becasue it is hard to come by an honest person! Best wishes and keep us posted!