When They Check You Out
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| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 11:00am |
I just thought I'd throw a few questions out to you all. When I say "checking out," I don't mean just glancing or looking at you; you know what I mean, lol.
1. What do you think, or what goes through your mind, when you see a guy checking you out, good looking and not so good looking?
2. What do you think when a guy checks you out when he is with his wife or girlfriend?
3. What do you think about the woman who is with a man who checks you out? Do you think the guy thinks that you're better than what he already has? Do you think you're better than her in some way?
4. Do you feel sorry for a woman whose guy is checking you out?
5. Have you ever had a woman get mad at you or at her husband/boyfriend when she caught him checking you out?
6. When a guy checks you out, what do you think is going through his head about you?
Some friends of mine and I were talking about this stuff last night. I look forward to your answers.
Have a great day!

I can't answer your questions because I'm a guy, but I will say two things:
1.) Many men are so attracted to their significant other (especially early on) that they rarely look, or when they do it's to confirm, "Yup, my girl is better!"
2.) Everyone knows that after time (especially in a long marriage) that it becomes difficult to keep things interesting and spiced up physically. That physical spark has perhaps gotten a little dull. It doesn't mean you don't love your spouse, it just means that life has happened to both of you, and it's not a priority to hit the gym every day. It's normal. When a guy has reached this point, then when he looks at another woman it is because that woman is "different". I know you women have heard the "different" thing before. Let me explain a little:
Brad Pitt was with one of the most gorgeous babes in Hollywood when he was with Jennifer. Any guy would kill to be with Jen. But let's be honest, he's a hottie in most women's eyes too, and when he went to shoot a movie, another woman was cast opposite him who is also a hottie - Angelina. She is not any "hotter" than Jen was, just "different" in Brad's eyes. Jen is the pretty girl next door and Angelina is the curvy sex-pot. Brad left Jen because he's a shallow SOB, but mostly because Angelina has a completely different body/look then Jen does. Personally I think Jen is better looking (not to mention has some depth and heart to her), and Brad initially thought so too. That's why he married Jen first and then left for Angelina. Plus I don't think Angelina is the type of girl you wanna settle down with, so I doubt they'll get married (if they do it won't last). She seems like the type that doesn't want to be tied down. I guarentee that just like any Hollywood romance Brangelina won't last either.
My point being, Brad loved Jen and therefore married her. Brad lusted for Angelina and since she was "different" and he's an SOB, he left Jen for her. Most married guys when they look at other women aren't thinking, "Oh I'm going to go get her number and have sex with her." Most men will look and then go home happily with their wives because they truly love their wives. They may lust after other women, but they only love you. They just look because that other woman has a different look, not because they are going to be unfaithful or anything. Not that their aren't men who would (look at Brad), but most men just are curious as to what other female bodies look like. That's why men look at Playboy Magazines and Porn, because other women have different bodies. Not better necessarily, just different from what they have been with for the past several years.
I'm NOT saying it is right or wrong, but I am saying it happens and that's the main reason for men looking at other women whether in real life or in a magazine. They are just different from what they've seen in bed over the past 5, 10, 20+ years. Why do you think he wants you to dress up in different outfits or to have sex in different places? Because it's DIFFERENT! It doesn't mean the first time you had sex it wasn't amazing, just that men want something different after a while. Again, I'm not saying it's right or wrong, just different.
Don't kill the messenger,
-MFG
PS: I know women look too! Don't tell me you've never checked out Brad Pitt or that cute guy down in accounting before! It goes both ways ladies... :)
1. What do you think, or what goes through your mind, when you see a guy checking you out, good looking and not so good looking?
Regardless of how they look unless they are creepy and make my skin crawl (in which the answer is "Ewww, gross, please top lokoing at me.") I'm flattered and usually think something to myself like, "Guess my butt doesn't look big in these pants." or "Yes, I've still got it."
2. What do you think when a guy checks you out when he is with his wife or girlfriend?
Depends on how long he looks. If it's just a quick up-down appreciative glance or quick stare at clevage, see above. If he takes his time I pretty much think, "Dude, be a little more obvious, stare a little longer maybe she hasn't noticed yet, douchebag."
3. What do you think about the woman who is with a man who checks you out? Do you think the guy thinks that you're better than what he already has? Do you think you're better than her in some way?
Beyond what I said above I don't really give it much thought. If the guy is a douchebag I might feel a litlte bad for her, but hey, it's her choice to be with him. In general I try not to compare myself with other women, ESPECIALLY in the looks department. Not becasue I think I fall short or they do, but becasue I think that no matter what you look like there is someone out there for you who will love you and think you're hot just the way you are.
4. Do you feel sorry for a woman whose guy is checking you out? See above.
5. Have you ever had a woman get mad at you or at her husband/boyfriend when she caught him checking you out?
Nope, but I did see a guy get smacked once for it.
6. When a guy checks you out, what do you think is going through his head about you?
I have absolutely no idea and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to know either. :)
1. What do you think, or what goes through your mind, when you see a guy checking you out, good looking and not so good looking?
I figure that I must be looking good today.
2. What do you think when a guy checks you out when he is with his wife or girlfriend?
I figure that I must be looking good today
3. What do you think about the woman who is with a man who checks you out? Do you think the guy thinks that you're better than what he already has? Do you think you're better than her in some way?
Nope, I've never thought about it.
4. Do you feel sorry for a woman whose guy is checking you out?
No. If she doesn't like it, she has the option to leave him. Besdies, all men look - if she thinks her man should be different to other men, then she's delusional.
5. Have you ever had a woman get mad at you or at her husband/boyfriend when she caught him checking you out?
No
6. When a guy checks you out, what do you think is going through his head about you?
It's obvious: he likes what he sees.
1. What do you think, or what goes through your mind, when you see a guy checking you out, good looking and not so good looking?
Well, if it is some "old perv" then I feel disgusted and very violated. If it is a good-looking and respectful-looking man, I will be flattered.
2. What do you think when a guy checks you out when he is with his wife or girlfriend?
I think that is very very disrespectful. I would not want my man doing that in front of me. Looking is ok, but leering and staring is totally out of the question. Everyone looks but it does not mean it has to be in a "I want to see you naked" kind of way.
3. What do you think about the woman who is with a man who checks you out? Do you think the guy thinks that you're better than what he already has? Do you think you're better than her in some way?
I don't really think anything of the woman who he is with. If the man is being very very disrespectful or makes a comment to her, then I think "what is she doing with that loser"
4. Do you feel sorry for a woman whose guy is checking you out?
Sometimes, it depends on the situation because I know I wouldn't like if my man was looking at some other woman. But then again, it is HER choice to be with him.
5. Have you ever had a woman get mad at you or at her husband/boyfriend when she caught him checking you out?
Yes, I have. I was at a club and a woman comes to me and starts screaming in my face that I am looking at her boyfriend and that he said something about dancing with me and that she wanted to "take it outside". I had no clue who her boyfriend even was!!!
6. When a guy checks you out, what do you think is going through his head about you?
Probably that "she's got a good ass" or "she's got a good set of boobs" as that's what seems to draw men first.
Pamela Lee,
Hey ya got me. For all I know your granny is hot... Anyway, of course it's both "different" and "attractive". What defines "attractive"? That's up to the guy who is looking. Everyone has different tastes. Some people think Paris Hilton is hot, I happen to throw up in my mouth a little every time I see her. :O!
So yes if he finds her attractive and different then what I said earlier applies.
Love to all,
-MFG