Where will you be?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Where will you be?
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Tue, 11-22-2005 - 1:07pm

The holidays are here, where do you spend them? Do you and your SO stay home and spend it together, go to family? DO you alternate between Christmas and Thanksgiving? What are your plans this year, will you cook? What's on the menu?


I have to work this year so I will not get to be with my SO as planned but will leave the day after with my family to spend afterwards with him and his family. It will be interesting since my parents will be going to meet his children and so will my son. They all are looking forward to meeting each other because I currently spend lots of time with his family when I am out visiting him and much more with his kids so my son will get to meet them and I am sure he is going to love it.

Marie

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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:06am

Hi Marie...

Normally, Pianoguy avoids "survey questions" in ivillage....but since yours seems harmless, here goes:

Pianoguy is doing a 6-hour gig for a restaurant in the area THANKSGIVING afternoon. It's his way of making T-DAY special for dinner guests while avoiding the 'loneliness factor!'

CHRISTMAS PLANS AREN'T FORMULATED YET. .

With no S.O. currently in my life at the moment, I'm actually 'dreading THIS CHRISTMAS!' Fortunately, the HOLIDAY MUSIC (along with the cheer and the good wishes from family and friends) will help me make it through?

Pianoguy

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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:12am

Well thanks for responding. I am quite different then most in regards to the holidays. I would much rather be alone then out with family. It is nice but I can do that anytime of the year and do it quite often but around the holidays it just seems they are only doing it for them. I like being alone because this time is used for reflection upon my year and I can focus on what will come the next and lessons learned and making sure I did grow some.


Don't be down with being alone for Chirstmas you never know something may come up within the next 30 days that turns an evening alone into one you least expected.

Marie

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:20am

Hi Marie! And Happy Thanksgiving to everybody!

I was just thinking of how much has changed since last thanksgiving. I have once again moved across the country. But this is for the best. I am back home near my family and friends. Iam out of a bad realtionship and am in a fairly new relationship with a man I adore (and I just posted a message about). We are going to my family's house for our first meal and his family's house for our second meal. Good thing we love to eat! He has met my whole family other than my oldest brother. Everybody loves him and I'm sure my bro will too.

I was so scared to move back home. I had become used to my life out there. But what a blessing! I can't remeber what I did without having my family so near. I definitly have alot to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:30am

I understand, family is what keeps me from moving. They do so much for me, plus during my marriage I was away from them and he did not like them so I lost a lot there and was so happy to see how they embraced me when I left him. They knew it was bad and only told me they would be there. That they were and no one from then on can tell me my family is no good or is trying to hurt a relationship. I know my family wants the best and even if I do not choose it they will still be by myside. So, where did you move from?

Marie

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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 2:15pm
I moved from Chicago to San Diego and back to Chicago. As much as I like being on my own, it was hard. And then when that relationship went really sour, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do being out there by myself. None of my friends and family thought I should move out to Cali. I'm glad that I did. It was an experience. A lesson learned. For that I am thankful.
Tell me what you think....
The guy I moved with to Cali, well he's visiting for the holiday. He knows we will not be together. But he said he misses me and didn't realize what he had until it was gone. He wants to see me just for dinner or a drink. He said no pressure. I have a place in my heart as bad as he was to me. It's not that he's a bad person. He just has a problem wiht alcohol. I care but I am not in love with him.
Should I see him?
Oh and let me know how things go with your SO and the family!
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 2:32pm
Are you emotionally strong to see him. My ex husband was bad for me and yet when I saw him after I left I still craved that man when I saw him. He would just look so good and was flirting. I had to get a go between for us until I knew I could be around him and even be in a alone setting to not want him and fall for his tricks. That is why I ask are you emotionally strong to see him, you have keep in mind that it is casual and be able to leave if things get to thick. When I was finally able to go out with my ex we had dinner and I ordered a simple meal like a club sandwich so I would not have to wait. But, know what could happen and make sure your strong before saying yes.

Marie

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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 5:47pm
I am going to my grandma's house to get together with my Dad's side of the family. My BF is going to his mom's house. We will probably get together for desert at one of the two places. Christmas will probably spent at both places. I love the holidays so it's a big deal for me. With tonight being a traditional bar night the BF and I are going to meet with a few close friends to celebrate the holiday with people we won't see tommorow. That will be fun. We get to relax and have a good time, with kids these days are few and far between now-a-days! Hope everyone has a good holiday! Love, Jeannine