Who would you choose?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Who would you choose?
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:33pm

Your dating someone who is a bit older then and it is new relationship. He is about to retire and thinking of moving to my area after retirement. Then your love you haven't saw in awhile that moved away follows through on what he said. WHich was: He was leaving to go settle down in a new area and wanted that place be where he establishes his family. Now he is back and has expressed that he is now ready to settle. He has bought a house and has everything ready if I say yes to come down and live with him. This man is closer in age since I will not be able to retire for a few more years and will not be able to travel like the new will begin to do next year. Could I grown to love this new relationship or am I missing if I do not go with the love I know? What would you do?


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Registered: 05-04-2005
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 1:00am

I guess, for me, it'd first depend on WHY "you" and first guy ended things, why'd he leave, why didn't you go with, etc. And is he a man I have always been in love with, but never got over and haven't moved on from?

If he's someone that I've moved on from, but I still think there's a chance there, personally, I'd see what could happen, but in NO WAY would I jump to "settling down with him" because who knows how he or I have changed.

as for the older man, if he was ready to retire, and I'm my age, 30, forget it. I don't care if I'm dating him, he's not a man I'd want to spend my life with. Because, let's be real, half my life wouldn't be with him, cuz he'd be dead.

It's all about circumstances.

~pineapple_girl