Why do women do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2009
Why do women do this?
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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 5:49pm

I met a woman online.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2009
Fri, 07-10-2009 - 10:17pm

Hi,


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 10:45am
I totally agree.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 1:41pm

I wish I had a good answer. I've known many men to do the same. People in general avoid confrontation and honesty simply because they are difficult. It's human nature to avoid situations that are hard. She's expecting you to take the hint without her having to do much. I imagine if you asked her she would say that she IS interested but just busy. Even sending the opposite signals is easier for her than just saying "I'm not interested in you".

This woman is QUITE a coward. I think that if you were to stop contacting her and move on, she would not protest. Sorry you had to deal with this one, on behalf of my gender I apologize. It is selfish of her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 2:37pm
I hear ya.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 2:51pm

I tend to agree that if asked she would say she is interested, just busy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 9:02pm

vetteb:

I hear you. I can relate to what you are going through with this woman, because I went through something similar with my latest male prospect. He basically was keeping what I like to call a virtual relationship, emails, text messages, and an occasional phone call, but no date after the first one. And you would figure, in my case, that a 40yr old would behave differently? He is behaving like an 18yr old at best!!! Time to next him!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2009
Sun, 07-12-2009 - 1:51pm

Update:

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2009
Sun, 07-12-2009 - 4:59pm

>>Geez, talk about a rollercoaster....<<


Exactly.


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Sun, 07-12-2009 - 7:40pm
Oh real nice. "I'm busy and unresponsive but let's continue with you being the one to put effort toward nothing"
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 9:15am

This is easy. All the excuses she's thrown at you, real or not, means she's not interested. Now that she's sending you that last text about "love to her from you", that's screaming she's just looking for attention (i.e.: Someone to talk to and gives her a social connection). I have to agree with lillylvr, regardless of what she does for a living, either she's into it or she's not, and right now she's not. When you find the right one, she'll be more into calling than texting and not being the one making excuses.

One piece of advice is not to put all your eggs in 1 basket and all the hoping, wondering, and trying to rationalize things. If there's no connection, and it's too much effort, it's not worth it. Time to move on :)

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