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| Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:54am |
Hi,
Here is my story and I wll be very appricated for any of your sugguestions.
I met a woderful 21 years old American man in my country. I am older than him 10 years. His company sent him to work at my home town for almost two months. And we had great time together with him and his co-worker. In fact, I has feeling for his co-worker, but he left very shortly after we met. And, times goes by, I and the American man get along with each other very well. I am sure he has feeling for me. Cuz, everytime, I want something he will immediately do it for me. And he will be jealous when I mentioned his co-worker. Later, he transfered to another town. And asked me to come to his farewell party before he left. I went and he is happy to see me and he gave me his card with his home phone # and address in america before his move to another town.
Now, he has left for 3-4 days now. He didn't wirte to me, so i emailed him one time . But still haven't received any reply. I don't know what happen. Why a man was closed to you and suddenly changed. I truely want to keep the friendship with this guy. I had same expeerience before with same story that my friend has no contact with me after he went back to america. this is my second time like that, and I am so scared to have tried to keep the friendship with my friends in america now. There are another two people i want to write them, but i am scared it just happen the same way.
Thanks for your time.

Hi Isme,
3-4 days is not very long to wait so don't give up entirely.
Your friend is just back in America and very busy getting settled again? He may not even have access to the internet yet.
Also "pen-pals" or people who maintain friendships by writing often do not correspond very often. I have a good friend (a man, I am a woman) and we have been pals through email for about 10 years. We only email a few times a year though! So the expectations are not as great as yours.
Perhaps keep a list of important things that you'd like to write to him and compose a nice thoughtful email in a month or so after he's settled in. Don't expect too much. Being 21 in America, he may be out socializing and not too interested in keeping friends overseas. It is hard to say.
All the best to you!
Hi Ubersilly,
Thanks for your response. Yes, you are right. Being 21 american may not want to keep contacting with friends oversea. He has his own new life now. :) I should try to understand him. I usually write him a long email about my days, my emotion to the people and things like that. I guess it is too much for a 21 yrs friend, right. I guess I should keep it sample and short. I always want him to be my closed friend that I can talk with him for everything or even ask him some advice for decidional making. I guess I expect too much.
Thanks again!
isme666
Hi Isme,
I don't think you have to give up entirely. Be patient and he may just be back in touch. I'd email him a very friendly email in a month or so that is positive and not "needy."
Ask him thinks like how he likes being back, seeing old friends and things like that.
Good luck! You will make new friends that are closer to you and easiert to share with soon if you keep your chin up!
UberSilly