will he ever take me back?
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will he ever take me back?
| Wed, 09-14-2005 - 8:40am |
I was not only dating but seriously in love with someone for over a year. i was his first love. he is in his 30's. not the settle down type. anyway, we had the most passionate best connection and he never loved before he loved me. he had his mom in to meet me, she loved me and told me he never felt this way before. however, because of my own insecurities and trust issues i got very jealous and possessive. i am not proud. the final straw came when i checked his cell phone log and freaked out that he called this girl he works with. insane i know. like i said, my own issues. well he flipped out at me because he said it wasn't the first time i did something like that and my lack of trust for him was killing his spirit and made him lose trust in me (ie, go through his call log). he told me its over. he loves me more then anything, but he doesnt want to be in a relationship. he feels smothered and like he has no freedom because i am trying to control him. here comes my question: if you deeply love someone with all your heart and soul and just a week before you are talking about how you want to share your whole life with them, how do you suddenly break it off? it has been a week of me crying, promising to change my jealous ways, and he is not caving. he said he can't have the stress, the emotional stress of this relationship anymore. is it possible to love someone so much and still break up? any chance that once he is without me he will want me back? i am hurting so so bad. what can i do here?

My advise is just try and back off. I KNOW it's hard but sometimes you have to subtract in order to add. Taking yourself away from this right now may help the situation. Give him a chance to understand why you did that. IF he doesnt call then how in love could ha have been. It's ot fair to be with someone who treat you as hough you are dispensible. That's my opinion and good luck!
Good Luck