Will it last?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Will it last?
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 2:04pm
I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and things seem to be going great. My only concern is that before we started going out he had been in a 6 year relationship, lived with her and everything and he has only been out of that relationship for 4 months before we met. He says he's so over her and that he is really happy with me. I'm just not sure if he had enought time to get over that long of a relationship. He still speaks to her and goes to her house to visit her child sometimes. I love him and he says he loves me but is it for real or not, I just can't tell. Help!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: anisemeg
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 3:15pm

Well, that definitely has the characteristics of a rebound...but not ALL rebound relationships fail. Only time will tell.

Has he introduced you to his ex so you can feel comfortable with their interaction? That seems very fast to be platonic friends after such a long relationship, but again, it is *possible*.

Sheri

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Registered: 12-16-1997
In reply to: anisemeg
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 3:18pm

Anise,

I understand your concern. Have you been involved in a rebound relationship before and are afraid history will repeat itself?

Unless he's given you a reason to doubt what he says, I'd take him at his word, enjoy what you have with him now and try not to worry about the future. Worrying about whether or not he really loves you can cause unnecessary stress and further complicate your relationship.

Relax and go with the flow.

Heymum

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In reply to: anisemeg
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 3:30pm
I haven't been formally introduced to his ex, he did point her out one day but he looked like her was more mad about her being there than anything. Plus every time she calles he gets all mad about it. He did introduce me to his ex's daughter.
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In reply to: anisemeg
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 3:33pm
No I haven't been in a rebound relationship before, I always avoid them. I've just been in bad relationships before.
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In reply to: anisemeg
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 8:10pm

I had only been separated from my 1st husband for 2 months when I met my now DH. It wasn't a rebound - rather, it was the right relationship arriving a little sooner than anticipated.

We're having our 13 year anniversary this year and are still blissfully happy.

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Registered: 11-29-2004
In reply to: anisemeg
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 3:06pm
I am in a similar situation as yours. Your post is several months ago, just wondering if your still in that relationship?

 

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In reply to: anisemeg
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 3:25pm
Yes I'm still in my relationship and it's going strong. We are talking about buying a house and moving in together next year.
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Registered: 11-29-2004
In reply to: anisemeg
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 4:16pm
Wow, congratulations ... glad to hear that.