Is this woman really just a friend?

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Is this woman really just a friend?
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Sun, 01-17-2010 - 1:11pm
I've been in an undefined relationship for the past few months. Right now he's totally focused on starting up a new business a woman who is a "friend" of his. We recently met for the first time when he brought her to a social function I was hosting. I sensed that there had once been something between them and he later confirmed this. She is very attractive and seems like a nice person but I don’t know what to make of this whole situation. That evening I felt like he spent way too much time doting on her and worrying if she was comfortable…bringing her drinks, sitting next to her and conversing alone with her for a long time…even to the point of moving out of her view when I started kissing him. They have started spending a lot of time together getting their business off the ground. It seems like whenever I call him he is busy doing something with her. I’m confident there’s nothing going on yet, but I don’t trust where all this is going to lead. And I don’t trust that their feelings toward each other are strictly business-related. But, I don’t know what to do, I’ve voiced my opinion about it and it hasn’t changed anything. I feel that he’s placed this new business (and possibly her too) above our relationship. Does it seem like he is still into her? Should I put my foot down or ride it out, or just leave?


Edited 1/17/2010 1:38 pm ET by i_brandee
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Registered: 12-27-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 1:44pm

I don’t know what you mean by “put your foot down”.

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:07pm
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. The kiss incident was discussed. She knows that he and I are together, but he moved out of her view so that she wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Still, I do see your point. He was too concerned about her feelings at the cost of mine.
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Registered: 12-27-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:24pm

So SHE wouldn’t feel uncomfortable.