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Wondering what to do...
| Thu, 06-03-2010 - 11:14am |
I met a really nice guy about 6 months ago. He is attractive, interested, loyal, funny; but not working and hasn't for a few years due to needing knee surgery. He is not divorced due to needing her medical benefits, but she moved out over a year ago. They recently lost their house so he had to move to an apartment. I was initially very interested and so was he, but I soon got scared and backed off to being friends only due to his financial situation. He says he will work again in the future, but how do I know? I am wondering if I am doing the right thing. He feels I am making a mistake by backing off as he feels we are a good match. Any advice would be most appreciated. Thanks!
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What does it matter that HE feels you're making a mistake, if YOU think it might be the right thing to do? He wants a girlfriend, of course he's going to try to convince you to stick around in spite of the fact that the situation isn't beneficial to you.
I would stay WELL AWAY from this one. How do you know he will work in the future? Exactly. People don't take years off from working because they have knee surgery. He's floating by without any reason to work, that's how he'll continue to live as long as he can. You might be a match otherwise, but I'd say this is more than reason enough to find someone who is in a situation that is suitable for a new girlfriend.
He is married, unemployed for several years, and that “knee surgery” excuse is flakey.
You’re welcome.
"(his excuse for not getting divorced is a crock if he's on disability then he has medical coverage)"
It sounds more like temp disability, like you'd purchase through an employer. But even if he's on SSDI, you have to be on it for two years to get Medicare.
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