Would he feel inferior?

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Registered: 02-27-2006
Would he feel inferior?
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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 4:23pm

I have known him since high school, and we have been close friends especially since we've become classmates in university.
He's a great guy; good looking, funny, warm hearted, athletic, the total package. And I think I've fallen in love with him, and I think he's fallen for me as well. He hasn't officially asked me out or anything like that yet, though.

Just one thing that's bothering me. All the years that we've known each other, I've always been the brighter student. He's always looked up to me for help with his studies and assignments. And he also depends on me on other things. It's not like he's irresponsible or anything like that, he would've handled things himself if he could. It's just that he needs my help most of the time.
I'm not trying to degrade him, I'm just trying to describe the situation. Although I never minded helping him out, I'm worried that he feels inferior to me.
Just last week, he told me that he's embarassed that he keeps having to ask favours from me.

I love him, but I'm scared that his feeling of inferiority would stop him from asking me out. Do you think this inferiority complex might affect our relationship?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 5:03pm

Would he feel inferior?

Only if you use this against him in a negative way. Treat him with kindness, respect and acceptance and you have a chance. Your choice will have significant influence.