Would I look desperate

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Would I look desperate
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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 1:02pm

I posted this on another board but I thought I would put it here as well.

I have been out of the dating scene for awhile. There guy working in my building and I mentioned to a mutual friend of ours that I thought he was cute. He told her that he wanted to ask me out and what did she think I would say. She told him the only way to find out was to ask. Anyway, he is really shy and apparently he kept trying to and got nervous. Said everytime he saw me he got butterflies in his stomach. Now, maybe I should have initiated something but like I said I have been out of this for a while. My friend even told him I was older and had kids and he said he didn't care. To cut a long story short- he had to leave this building to go work at another building and won't be back for 9 weeks and he never worked up the nerve to ask me out. Well, I would like to go out with him. Should I say something to the mutual friend who would probably be able to let him know, or should I adopt the attitude that he knows where to find me and if he really wants to ask me out he can or should I just wait the 9 weeks until he gets back.

Thanks

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:36am
bump.....some advice please
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 2:56pm

I don't know that you'd look "desparate", but I'd personally want him to make the effort to ask ME out rather than chasing him down and asking him out myself.

Sheri

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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 3:12pm
Thanks for your response. One of his friends still works in the building so I innocently asked him if he could come to my house to do some electrical work (the guy is an electrician). But he said he didn't have the right equipment to do it so he would have to send "Cute Guy" to do it. I didn't even really acknowledge that I knew who he was talking about. So "Cute Guy" should be phoning me to find out what electrical needs I have and this will be his opportunity to ask me out. If he doesn't then I might just leave it alone. What do you think?
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 3:29pm
Sounds like a plan!
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Registered: 11-09-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 12:35pm

oh well, the best made plans sometimes go awry. Cute Guys friend hasn't called me so I can't get him to make Cute Guy call me. I guess I will be waiting 8 more weeks because I am fresh out of ideas. I don't even think his friend works in my buiding anymore because he wasn't here today.

Sucks!!!