I think you should pack up your stuff and your child and go to your mothers for a while. Tell your boyfriend that you'll behave like a wife when he makes you one, but you're done auditioning for the role. You've earned it by now.
He's perfectly content pretending and reaping all the benefits while it's kicks and giggles today, but he isn't willing to make it real and obligate himself to tomorrow. I'd tell him either you two go down to the courthouse and make it legal and real and binding this next weekend or he'll be hearing from your lawyer about setting up his visitation and child support.
I understand not wanting to marry under that circumstance. Afterall, no romantic love story starts with "well, he didn't want to marry me so I twisted his arm until he caved". But you have a child together and the child needs the stability of a foundation. Granted you two should have estabilished that foundation BEFORE creating the child, but that's done, and it is better to give it a go and try being married than to call it quits now and further break the family unit.
Hopefully he'll rise to the occasion and be instead of pretend to be your husband. But his financial excuse is so flimsy it's laughable, and I think it's a cover because he doesn't want to marry you. If he wanted to he would have by now. Best case senario, you two get married. Worse case senario, you stop the charade and move on with your life and find a man who will do more than just take take take, but will give of himself.
Sorry ma'am but I have to agree with Mrs. Foxywife here, he ultimately is throwing out an excuse either because a) you need a wedding he can't afford or b) because he wants to marry you. You two have the biggest investment possible between you - Having created a life. Marrying you should have been #1 priority on his list and if he doesn't WANT to commit to you through marriage after being a parent with you, there's a problem.
Would you be happy enough with a small personal wedding that doesn't cost a lot of money?
Welcome to the board! I think in this situation he is being honest with you regarding the ability to get married at this point. I am thinking that it is because he cannot afford the wedding that you would prefer and would like to wait until he becomes financially stable.
Many men won't even settle down until they have reached that point where they feel they can provide for a family. Does he take care of you and your child? Does he work and is responsible? These questions can help determine if the reason he has given you is false or not. Good Luck
Well, I think if you're ready to just stop fighting for something he doesn't want, then you should pack up your stuff and sit with him, and not draw the line, but cut it. You know he doesn't want to marry you, so don't beat around the bush waiting for him to get the balls to tell you. You tell him. Calm and rational, no tears or accusations, just resigned forfit. Something in your own words