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| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:15pm |
I took everyone's advice (which was really good!) and mentioned to the guy I met on OLD that I would love to talk to him sometime. He did e-mail me back but, ignored the idea in his e-mail. Yesterday I mentioned it again letting him know I wanted to put the option on thetable because I wanted to get to know him better. He hasn't e-mailed me back yet but,there's still time for that. I guess the issue I'm having is that we have been e-mailing for about 1 1/2-2 weeks and I from what I have learned he seems like a nive guy. We have a lot in common and we both joined the OLD site looking for a serious relationship. I just want to talk to him & get to know him better because, (not to sound bitchy or rude)I don't want to "waist my time" if he's not interested anymore. I have no idea how to go about this because this is the first time I have done OLD. If anyone had any advice that could be helpful I would really appreciate it.

Well, here's something that I said to a guy that seemed like he was going to be an incessant emailer:
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This worked for me because he said that he preferred email as a form of contact. AND I have a lot of OLD experience and I know that emailing too long is bad from experience - you're new so you can't say that without it sounding weird. You could adapt it some and say something like:
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Not to be a downer, but a guy who doesn't want to meet in person sets off major red flags and warning bells. I'd assume he's married or attached, and meeting in person is too complicated for him.
If he's not in a relationship already, then he must have horrible social skills if he can't even carry on a phone conversation, let alone meet in person.
Either way, is this the kind of guy you want to be with? I'd move onto greener pastures, especially because you have mentioned moving the relationship away from e-mail more than once and he hasn't accepted.
AJ, enjoying life with C.