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| Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:46am |
Hi, I am an inexperienced dater, especially with online... I have been messaging with this one guy for a couple weeks now, and we have our first meet tonight. He really does seem like a good guy, sweet and nice, and smart! When he asked me out he suggested we get a coffee and then grab a movie to watch (meaning go back to one of our places). I'm all for the coffee, but the movie... I don't know. I mean, I'm sure he's not a psycho, but who knows right? And if he thinks I'm going back to his place to fool around he's crazy! I guess though, he could just be suggesting it as something to do. I don't want to look like I think he's a nutcase or hurt his feelings. If I feel comfortable should I go? If I decide not to go, what should I say to him to not look silly or hurt his feelings?

Absolutely do not go to his place or have him come to yours. To me, the fact that he suggested this is a red flag (that he may just be looking for a hookup), so definitely keep that in mind if you do hit it off.
I wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings--I'd just say something like "I'd like to get to know you better before going to your house or having you come to mine." If he has a problem with that, then he's got a problem, IMO.
Sheri
No way, No how!!
MAYBE he said it innocently, but i think it is TOTALLY innapropriate. Can you imagine how uncomfrotable that would be? Sitting on a couch together, 1st date, watching a movie ....
I would still go on the date, but be on gaurd. Sounds like either he is clueless to dating etiquette, or he is trying ot set up a hook up!