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1st date tonight :)
| Sat, 10-28-2006 - 2:51am |
So, I had a first date with this guy I've been talking to for a couple weeks. He's so much more attractive in person than his online pics! We had a pretty good time. He was real easy to be around, very funny and nice. I definitely sensed some mutual attraction/interest. At the end of the date, he said, "We should do this again sometime." Then he mentioned that he could come towards my place next time. ( I met him at a lounge near his place downtown). He said all this on his own. So, is it safe to assume that he is genuine or do some guys say stuff like this and then ghost? I'm dying to see him again! I haven't met a guy like him (someone I actually want to see again...lol) in a long long time. :)

I had the same thing.
Awesome first date two weeks ago tomorrow - he said several times how happy he was we'd gone out . . . paid the bill/refused my contribution . . . walked me to my car . . . hug goodnight and as he was walking away he turned around and asked if I'd like to do dinner again sometime to which I said I would.
We've talked on msn a few times now. 50/50 as to which initiates conversation - although it was him who did first after our date - and he AGAIN told me how good of a time he had.
That's it though - he's gone cold or something. Last couple times I suggested something I got "yeah maybe one day I have to get a job first" , "yeah we can do whatever you like" , and finally today when we chatted I said I was going to go uptown to shop/look around and told him to call me if he wanted to hang out.
He said "ok"
WTF???? That was hours ago and he hasn't called. . .
Next time he initiates contact on msn I just need to let him know that I'm not interested in continuing in a msn-only situation and if he'd like to actually see me again I'd really like that.
But to answer your question - - as I drove home from this date I was 100% POSITIVE I'd be seeing him again VERY VERY SOON . . . and it's been two weeks. WHile he hasn't ghosted I'm now not convinced that we'll see each other again because I refuse to simply chat for weeks on end (NOT for me - - - men type too darn slow :-)
Focus on fun and not your wedding day ;-)
I had a great second date tonight. the first OL date I had was AWESOME---too good to be true. By the time I got home the red flags were popping up all over. He went sour pretty quickly in ways that I could have predicted had I not been having such a good date. My first meet with Mr. Write (a writer!) was good but not AWESOME and I think a better opportunity for me to judge more clearly. No red flags and plans for a third date.
Not a scientific sample, but good enough for me.
Susie
Susie,
Yeah, I know what you mean. My date with this guy was not AWESOME, but like you said, there were no red flags. There was just enough chemistry to give me a craving to see him again and get to know him further, but stay grounded in reality. I run the other way when a guy acts completely smitten on the first couple of dates...that's not realistic.
I did hear back from my date from last night... he emailed last night and called me today. I had already told him that I had plans for today... I definitely got a vibe with him today that we would have gotten together spontaneously (for 2nd date) if I hadn't already had other plans tonight. This guy is so nice. I'm really looking forward to spending more time with him.
Good luck with mr writer! :)
barbarahelene,
that's gotta be frustrating. i wouldnt be able to deal with the guy who wants to exist more for each other in cyber space than having actual face to face meets. i cant believe it's been two weeks but he's still IMing you. i definitely think you should let go of him since he wont suggest going out. it sounds like he's too comfortable having you in friend zone and easily accessable by IM at that.
i actually heard from the guy i went out with, michael... i had a new email from him in my inbox by the time i got home from the date. also, he IMed and called me today. if i didn't have other plans i bet he and i would have gotten together today. :) i hope things progress with getting to know this guy, but im also still contacting other men from OLD. I have another date with someone else tomorrow night! i am definitely more interested in michael than anyone else, but i dont want to solely focus on him.
Devorah