1st meet

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
1st meet
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:03am
Well, Mr. "Too good to be true" might be just that.
He:
a) enjoyed himself and wanted to stay longer
b) didn't ask for my phone #, didn't walk me to my car, gave me a hug and said "I will e-mail you"
Ha-ha, whatever. I will be shocked if I hear from him again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:05am

Well, did YOU enjoy YOURself?

I bet you he got a lot of emails! He had a pretty amazing profile.

amjay

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:10am
no no, you are thinking Mr. Smart. We are still working out the detail of our 1st meet.
This one was another guy called "too good to be true" as in Monday's chat.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 5:35am

>> didn't walk me to my car, gave me a hug and said "I will e-mail you"

I have committed this sin before purely because I didn't want to look like a stalker. I have since learned from the boards that it is considered a red flag not to walk to the car and have modified my behavior.

When you say that he wanted to stay longer -- did you cut it short?

I had a meet once break in at the 30 minute mark and tell me that I must have to get to my next appt (I had vaguely told her that I had an afternooon appt)- since I'd never gone only 30 minutes before I took that as a "next" and gave her the exact treatment as above only instead of promising to do anything such as email I gave the "nice to meet - keep in touch".

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 6:10pm

This stuff really helps me.

I wish I had found this site years ago.

Because I too, felt that walking them to their car,
when you were 'meeting in public' was like
stalking behavior.

See, OLD is so different to me than 'real dates' RLD.
Where you pick them up, open the door, they get in the
car with you, etc etc.

It's just all so confusing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 9:16pm

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We met at 8pm. At about 10 the waitress came up and asked if we wanted anything else and I was kind of feeling that I could be done for the night but his body language was very clear that he didn't want to go yet and I said ok and he ordered another glass of wine. Finally at about 11:30 I proposed that we split for the night.
I hope he doesn't expect me to e-mail him.
In my experience with old I know that when someone likes you/wants to see you again - they will move rather quickly and set up the next date.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 9:23pm
it is confusing and feels very unnatural to me still. I personally prefer if a guy walks me to my car. If someone doesn't like that - they should be able to say so. Not that big of a deal.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 11:54pm

>I hope he doesn't expect me to e-mail him.

I would not expect you to email me first. I would however expect to sense some genuine enthusiasm. I'm generally not too interested if the return email is "I had a nice time". If they also respond "and would like to do it again" then I am more re-assured.

I don't have a lot of free time to be chasing (and forget about it when both people have young kids) so anyone who's looking for someone to be pursuing them HEAVILY would just not be a match for me. I'll probably be single a good long time.