1st meet Tues, his expectations?
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1st meet Tues, his expectations?
| Mon, 06-19-2006 - 9:34pm |
Ok, so .... I am trying to "broaden my horizons" or my expectations i suppose. I'm not going to lie - yeah, I would love to meet a guy who is really great looking & has a great career.


Why not just meet for coffee, rather than dinner? That's much less likely to lead him on IMO. I realize it's too late for THIS first meet since you've already arranged it, but in the future, I think that would be a better way to go.
He sounds like he's got way too many irons in the fire, if he can't remember your details. I'd be wary.
Sheri
Oh Geez! Now he called me at 8 AM (& i work nites, he's lucky i didnt work last nite!) to say "Good morning". Ugh. I dont have a good feeling, but i am TRYING to stay positive!
That's why we date - he probably isn't for you but go for a quick date then you can make that decision unless your dreading - then I'd cancel. Dating is work so if someone really bothers you before meeting it's ok for you to cancel.
Last week I had a date second date Wed, a first date Thursday, second date Friday and a second date Saturday with three dif't guys! I have NO IDEA how players do it because this week I'm paying for it - I'm a tired Peanut and now pacing myself this week. It's not being a player it's called dating and seeing what's out there as it takes time to see how someone really is. But it was my subtle attempt at humor :-)
I have a third date Wed and third date Saturday. If Wed's date wants a 4th I may put him off until next week but have a feeling he'll ask for weekend plans! I've narrowed it down to two guys but it's hard juggling them both and pacing myself and still allowing downtime for me. There are two other guys I'd like to meet out but I seriously don't think I have the time and wonder how healthy it is dating massively like this. I'd rather focus on the two and get to know them on a more personal level. Eventually one will shine better then the rest and if not, I start all over (oh what fun, NOT)!
Yes I'm all about the numbers but right now I need to slow down :-) - it's like being at an all you can eat buffet (and no I haven't kissed any of these guys yet either)!
Ms. Peanut
My approach is different for dating. I am 52 and have been in several relationships since my divorce 6 yrs ago. I don't like to date someone if she is not "the one," i.e. a long term, committed partner.
After having experience with my previous relationships and my intuition, I know fairly quickly before meeting or after the first meeting if I want to spend my time getting to know this person more.
My fantasy would be with a younger woman but I know in the long run that this won't work so I don't try. It would be flattering if I appealed to someone young though.. male ego and all that.
Plus I see it has to be a lifestyle match since I had my children later than most. I have a 13 yr daughter and 17 yr old son who are with their mother full time but I see them weekly. Most women my age have grandchildren almost my daughter's age, free to travel, and/or semi-retired or retired. Even women ten years my junior have children grown and out of the house.
I see the first date, esp. off the net is not leading anyone one. I view having expectations is premediated resentment. I approach dating as not having any attachment to the outcome and enjoy the journey.
It seems that a good indicator of what kind of person you are dealing with is how well he listens and actually hears your preferences. I see that if I am kindly direct, stating how I feel and what I want then it is up to him/her to deal with it. I see no problem in telling him that you don't feel comfortable with his invitations.
Mark
LOL about the kissing!
I know what you mean it bugs you but you still want to give him a shot - hey, no one is perfect and he may not be experienced at "dating".... hope it goes well and don't worry about going for the older guys - they might treat you even better then the youngens!!! :-)
Ms. Peanut