2 dates - STALKING me
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| Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:20am |
I need help badly. There is this guy I saw 2 times within 2 weeks. We talked on the phone for a few weeks before then (not consistently). He ended up being a weirdo so I nicely told him I wasn't interested in pursuing anything with him and that we aren't compatible. when i told him he completely attacked and insulted me about a few things. then i told him that i was shocked he could say things like that to me, he doesn't really even know me. I told him that because of how rude he was i definitely did not want to be in any kind of contact with him. So, it's been 1.5 weeks since I told him I am not interested on any level. he has emailed me 15 times and called me 10 times since then. I have completely ignored him. I am really freaked out. yesterday morning he emailed that he wanted his book (he had left a book in my car that he wanted to show me---i swear at first he seemed like a nice guy). i replied with 'give me your address and i'll mail it to you'. well, he sent me a borage of 6 emails yesterday after that all of which i ignored and he left me two voicemails yesterday. So, now i am SO freaked out and he just now CALLED ME AT 8:30AM and left another vociemail saying, "Are you sure you didn't make a huge mistake?" This guy is deranged with mental problems and has no dignity.
i had initially blocked him but this guy is freaking me out so bad that i think i should have emails of evidence incase he does something a lot worse. what should I do??? I'm actually getting scared. i am listed in the phone book so i keep looking over my shoulder thinking this guy is going to show up.
My sister agreed that the bizarre behavior of calling me at 8:30am warrants one last acknowledgement of him by emailing this :
"STOP CALLING AND EMAILING. i finished my discussion with you over a week ago. i am NOT interested in discussing anything with you. THERE IS NOTHING TO DISCUSS. i dont even know you. i saw you just TWO times in my life. STOP harassing me. DO NOT CALL ME. DO NOT EMAIL ME"
In 3 years of doing OLD on and off I have never had anything weird like this happen to me. So, do you think the way i am not responding to him is the right thing to do? If you were in this situation, would you send this last email to him?

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I know this "too shall pass" and I think it has already! If i do hear anything else from him, im contacting police and doing all those things you did.
I agree to giving him no response which i did completely put communication on extinction (my scientific terms--im a behavior analyst!) It worked, but then when he asked for the book....which i agree with a previous poster-he perhaps left it with me on purpose b/c he's desperate and wanted to make sure to be in contact with me--ugh...anyway, I wanted to get him his book back so he couldnt use my having his book as an excuse with cops later. that is the ONLY reason i responded. now he is back on extinction. I sent his book with delivery confirmation. I did not respond to his 'F&$% off' email.
Thanks for the help!
Devorah
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