2 guys at once, getting nervous
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| Fri, 12-30-2005 - 11:52pm |
I've been on Match.com for about 9 months or so, and have met in person about a half dozen guys. Only one did I talk to thru e-mail and phone for more than about 2 weeks before we met, and we went out for about 2 months, and are still good friends.
Well, I've been talking to 2 guys at the same time for about a month, long e-mails and longer phone calls several times a week. It's the most in-depth I've gotten with anyone before actually meeting them.
Well, I'm starting to get REALLY nervous. I feel guilty, first of all, for talking to 2 guys at once. (I don't know how people actually manage to cheat--it's hard juggling them on the phone, much less in person!) I mean, I literally got off the phone with one, and my phone rang right away with the other. And the both want to meet me soon, and have asked me out for the same nights! I've pushed both of them off, until after life settles down after the holidays.
But I'm also just getting plain scared to meet either one of them. So far, they're both great guys, and I can see that I'm going to eventually have to put one, if not maybe both depending on how our dates go, out of my life...and I've never been good at the "sorry, it's just not there for me" speech.
With the others, it was no big deal, b/c I hadn't been talking to them at length, but with these guys I have. Two and three hour phone conversations several times a week!
So now I just feel really yucky.
Your thoughts?

Whenever you feel guilty about talking to more than one guy at a time, get over it. Why?
Because chances are he's talking to a lot more women than you are men. That's the way it goes. In fact, I'd bet money he's talking to at LEAST 2 women, if not more, at the same time. Until exclusivity is talked about & established, you should always assume he is, and he should assume the same with you.
I agree with travkitty...Why?
This is what OLD is all about. You could be dating both these guys at the same time and not be doing anything wrong. You SHOULD be dating as many people as your time allows. There's absolutely no reason to feel guilty about talking to two guys at once. You've never even met them yet!
Relax!