2 meets

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Registered: 03-19-2005
2 meets
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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 11:49am
I had met 2 different guys and both meets went well. One called the day after, the other that same night. Both were interested in seeing me again and had made future plans. Guy #1 sent me an IM that he wanted to date me, but wouldn't get serious with me because I smoke( it's in my profile & I didn't smoke on our meet ). The second made plans to see me for lunch and never bothered to confirm and set time. He later IM'D me like we never made the plans. And he just stopped calling. It's just disrespectful.
Am I missing something here? Why show interest and call after meet then change their minds? Or were they looking for a "good time" and when they didn't get it they move on? I'm just in a lost.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 12:59pm

Sorry, but they didn't change their minds, they made them up after an initial meeting. Dating is all about kicking tires, cogh. At least they didn't waste too much of your time.

Keep going, and good luck!

amjay

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 1:31pm

I think in most instances - the guy's first instinct is to ask for another date.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 7:26pm

This happens to me all the time. It's frustrating to no end, I know. You really do wish that they'd just keep their mouths shut unless they really mean what they say. But they don't - so you forget about it and move on. No point in trying to figure it out.


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Registered: 04-13-2003
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 4:02pm
I do try to figure it out though. That's my problem and it drives me crazy in the process. I get hooked on guys very easily. I've always been this way. If there's someone I like, I think about him constantly and I have a hard time moving on when it doesn't work out. It's something I definitely have to work on.
I've also had 2 meets and neither worked out even though I thought one of them went really well. It doesn't feel too good, I know that.
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Registered: 03-19-2005
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 4:37pm

I guess what really bothers me is that they wasted my time. And if they are not interested they continue to string me along by IM'ing me. I had also noticed that 99% of the guys I talk/meet with had an ex that cheated on them. And they are still very bitter. I understand that everybody has trust issues, but I leave my past behind and don't complain about it. Emotionally Unavailable????
I am a very sweet girl looking for a sweet guy and I am very optomistic that I will find a great guy. I read in a book that if a relationship (meet/date) doesn't work out, it's fates way of saying that there is somebody better out there waiting for you.
I believe in that.

Next!

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Registered: 04-13-2003
In reply to: comeongethappy
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 5:15pm
I agree with what the book said too or at least I want to agree. That's how I want to start looking at things and maybe I won't feel as bad when they don't turn out as I thought they would.