The 20-something Virgin
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The 20-something Virgin
| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 10:41am |
A friend of mine has recently been dating this guy she met online. He is really sweet and the whole nine yards. From what he told her originally, he's never really had a serious relationship. No big deal right. Well later he said something about an ex girlfriend. It made her wonder... is he lieing? And now, they make out and some other stuff (i dont know the details but I know that they havent had sex because she doesnt want to start another relationship like that, shes going to wait a long time) and he had told her that he was a virgin. He's from a very strict family so it seemed very believable. But now she tells me that he seems to constantly want sex and seems to get mad if she doesnt wnat to. But then it also seems like he's not a virgin. His actions and comments point in the other direction. We can't figure out if its just a ploy to get her into bed, if he really is a virgin, or well we just dont know! Because of his age, if he were a vigin I'm sure he wouldn't want to be anymore anyways, and I'm sure his friend give him a hard time. She wanted to bring this to the board because we honestly are stumped. This guy does seem like hes telling the truth about the girlfriend bit, trust me it would be believable with him. But she just doesnt know what to believe anymore. I should really have her come on here because I'm sure I'm making a mess out of all this, but it's hard to describe when I'm not completely in the situation. But if you can make sense of this... feel free to make comments on any of it! Thanks Ladies!!!

Well, just because he's never had a serious
Well, my son is 17, he is a virgin, as are many of his friends, but to hear them talk, they are major playahs.
As for the girlfriend thing - maybe his definition of a serious relationship differs from yours. Some people think that even a monagamous long term relationship isn't serious unless it develops into an engagement or living together. Some people think 2 months of talking on the phone is serious.
What I really don't like is his attitude about her saying no to sex. How far is she going with him before telling him no? NOT that is excuses his behavior, but if she's being a tease, I'd be a bit annoyed too, if I were him.
Sounds to me like they need to back off from the touchy feely stuff and TALK to find out if they are on the same page.