A 2nd Ghost Reappears

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Registered: 07-20-2001
A 2nd Ghost Reappears
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:00pm

Many of you remember Dan from Iowa whom I dated for about 3 weeks last year (actually this time last year). I think he basically just wanted sex (but didn't give it to him) and he also seemed to have some kind of fantasy woman in his mind for what he wanted long-term (I wasn't it). Anyway, I got an instant message from him about 4 months after he quit calling me. He got sarcastic in that conversation and I told him that he was a selfish guy and that I was glad that I found out sooner than later & didn't waste anymore time with him. I blocked him after that. But, I DID feel better in getting in the last word.

Then I talked to a guy named Bobby last fall who lived over an hour and a half from me. He was the one who messaged me and we talked on the phone several times. When I mentioned us actually meeting (after him mentioning it casually as well), he balks and says that he freezes up when meeting new people. I don't remember what I said to him, but we basically did not talk much at all after that. I thought there was no point really anyway. I removed him from my messenger list and never thought a lot about him after that--we never met so I didn't have any real attachment to the guy. Well, I logged on to my messenger today and low and behold I have a message from him. I actually had almost forgotten his user name. I wrote back...now who are you? And then said that I remembered. Then I told him that he was the guy who had a profile online but was unwilling to meet anyone. I told him that since I never did hear from him again, that I didn't give it much thought after that.

I mean, really, what is the point in messaging me now? I'm like most everyone else. I'm not looking for more chat buddies and sometimes you couldn't count on them to even message you on a regular basis anyway. Gosh...men are stupid.! :0