2nd meet yesterday
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| Mon, 08-08-2005 - 9:25am |
I had my first meet with the guy on Friday. We played some pool and then went for a walk down by the water. He seems like a great guy so far. He's very nice, we have quite a bit to talk about, he knows where he wants to head in his career and has ambition (a weird change from my ex!). At the end of the first meet he asked if he could call me again and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
On Saturday I was talking to him and told him that I just found out that I didn't have to work on Sunday. And he suggested going to the beach. I'm not sure what I was thinking letting him see me in a bathing suit LOL But I wasn't too uncomfortable, and I knew I probably wouldn't be going to the beach many more times this summer and it was supposed to be beautiful out. It was a nice relaxed date, sun bathing, going for a swim, and taking a walk along the beach. At the end of this date he asked if he could give me a kiss. I thought that was kind of cute, he seems a bit old-fashioned that way.
I do have a few concerns I'd like to bounce off you guys. At the first meet I was a little confused as to whether I was attracted to him. I've never dated a guy much older than me, and he is 7 years older... but I think the main cause was that he was the first guy I've went out with since breaking up with my ex a little over 2 months ago, and I guess I was a little weirded out at first. On the second meet it was more comfortable and I felt more attracted to him. But I get the feeling that he is more into me than I am into him... So I am hoping the attraction might grow? Does this happen to other people??
Thanks for any advice!
Cowgirl

Hey, sounds like you've got a nice guy! You say you felt more attraction after the first meet. That's great. Give this one a little time. You should also be seeing other people. You are just starting out and it would be a mistake to put all your eggs in one basket.
As for me, if I'm not feeling it for a guy by date 3, he's gone. I really can't bear wasting people's time.
amjay
Thanks for your reply :) I am enjoying his company and would like to give the guy a chance. I am still looking online for other suitable men, just haven't found any yet.
Cowgirl
Thanks for sharing your story! I had the same type of feeling about this guy when I first met him (just friends). But now I am thinking more romantically about him. I am a sucker for really nice guys, and he seems to be one of them. We're supposed to cook supper tonight and rent a movie. Kind of a more intimate environment... If nothing comes from tonight I might have to reconsider.
I also agree with you about the guys falling for the girls first. At least that has been my experience! This guy has started saying certain things that make me think he is headed in that direction. It is a bit weird when the guy is so far ahead of your emotions about him. Though I think I'd rather it be this way than me being more into him than he is into me.
I'll post an update about the 3rd date tomorrow :)
Cowgirl