2nd meet yesterday

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Registered: 09-19-2004
2nd meet yesterday
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 9:25am

I had my first meet with the guy on Friday. We played some pool and then went for a walk down by the water. He seems like a great guy so far. He's very nice, we have quite a bit to talk about, he knows where he wants to head in his career and has ambition (a weird change from my ex!). At the end of the first meet he asked if he could call me again and gave me a kiss on the cheek.

On Saturday I was talking to him and told him that I just found out that I didn't have to work on Sunday. And he suggested going to the beach. I'm not sure what I was thinking letting him see me in a bathing suit LOL But I wasn't too uncomfortable, and I knew I probably wouldn't be going to the beach many more times this summer and it was supposed to be beautiful out. It was a nice relaxed date, sun bathing, going for a swim, and taking a walk along the beach. At the end of this date he asked if he could give me a kiss. I thought that was kind of cute, he seems a bit old-fashioned that way.

I do have a few concerns I'd like to bounce off you guys. At the first meet I was a little confused as to whether I was attracted to him. I've never dated a guy much older than me, and he is 7 years older... but I think the main cause was that he was the first guy I've went out with since breaking up with my ex a little over 2 months ago, and I guess I was a little weirded out at first. On the second meet it was more comfortable and I felt more attracted to him. But I get the feeling that he is more into me than I am into him... So I am hoping the attraction might grow? Does this happen to other people??

Thanks for any advice!

Cowgirl

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 8:57pm

Hey, sounds like you've got a nice guy! You say you felt more attraction after the first meet. That's great. Give this one a little time. You should also be seeing other people. You are just starting out and it would be a mistake to put all your eggs in one basket.

As for me, if I'm not feeling it for a guy by date 3, he's gone. I really can't bear wasting people's time.

amjay

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Registered: 09-19-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 9:51pm

Thanks for your reply :) I am enjoying his company and would like to give the guy a chance. I am still looking online for other suitable men, just haven't found any yet.

Cowgirl

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:34am
I once read that in the long term relationships, men are often the ones that fell in love instantly, and it took the woman a little while. Mainly that men purchase at first sight and women wait to have a deeper connection. I have been going out with a guy now for about a week. We had a first meet last wednesday. We had been talking online, im, for about two weeks prior. I remember seeing his photo, thinking he was kinda cute, but not being blown away. I even posted that he wasn't as hot as I had hoped. The first time I saw him I thought, "just friends." Until the first time he poked me on the side when I snorted in my laugh. Something just turned me on to him. Our date rocked! We hung out again on friday, we talked the entire time. He held my hand, and kissed me. When he kissed me it as amazing, and I would have never thought it!!! We hung out on Saturday, Sunday, and I just got in from watching him play rec basketball. I met his brother tonight, and while I was watching him from afar, something clicked. Some surge of excitement, I don't know, and I automatically thought I was crazy about this guy. He just flat out grew on me. He is this tall guy, who couldn't be more gentle and caring! So this is my story. In my opinion, if it goes well, just keep your eyes open. You never know when it will hit you. At first I thought, this is in the bag, he is sooo into me. Next! But I didn't, I stopped and gave it time. And I am seriously pondering taking my profile down. I really like this guy. So good luck.
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Registered: 09-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 6:52am

Thanks for sharing your story! I had the same type of feeling about this guy when I first met him (just friends). But now I am thinking more romantically about him. I am a sucker for really nice guys, and he seems to be one of them. We're supposed to cook supper tonight and rent a movie. Kind of a more intimate environment... If nothing comes from tonight I might have to reconsider.

I also agree with you about the guys falling for the girls first. At least that has been my experience! This guy has started saying certain things that make me think he is headed in that direction. It is a bit weird when the guy is so far ahead of your emotions about him. Though I think I'd rather it be this way than me being more into him than he is into me.

I'll post an update about the 3rd date tomorrow :)

Cowgirl

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 6:58am
I'm in the same spot as you. The guy I met two weeks ago would love to be exclusive and is really intense. He wanted to take me away to Vegas and stay at the Bellagio at his expense. Well, that opened up the "need to slow down" talk because I am just not sure of my feelings. He's a super considerate guy, but I'm not sure about my attraction/feelings at this point. His response was not to run, but slow down because I'm "worth the wait." I was surprised he took it so well. I just didn't want to mislead him or take advantage of him. Not wanting that to happen to me, I'm rather sensitive to that. We'll see. Good luck to you.