3rd Date Protocol
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3rd Date Protocol
| Sat, 07-22-2006 - 1:37am |
I am going out this weekend on a 3rd date. Thus far, he has paid for the dates. I've found it hard to not at least offer, like I have done in the past, but I don't want to give him the wrong idea--that maybe I am not interested or only wish to be friends.
We are going to a baseball game, and he is planning to pay for the tickets. Would it be appropriate for me to pick up the cost of our food and drinks?
Thinking ahead(I know this might not happen)..when is it appropriate to bring up dating exclusively and taking down our profiles?

Yes, I think it would be a nice gesture for you to take care of food & drinks since he got the tickets and has paid for the first two dates. I don't think it will convey at all that you just want friendship - I think guys like it when you pay for some things, makes it clear you aren't just looking for a free meal.
Exclusivity & taking down profiles should be discussed before sex but not too early. Usually I wouldn't discuss that till at least a month in.
Thank you for your response. At this point, I feel that I need to pay for *something*. I usually offer much sooner than this, and I think, in the past, that has turned some guys off. I am trying to do some things differently now, and they seem to be working so far.
We first went out at the end of June, but had been chatting for several weeks before that. We only go out on the weekends due to both of our schedules and the distance between where we both live.
I am thinking that we need to date at least another month or so before we talk about exclusivity. So far things are progessing slow(which is fine..I rather build a solid friendship first), but steady.
Who typically is the one to bring up dating exclusively?
The person who is the most interested in exclusivity brings it up! And just because you take your profiles down, doesn't mean you're exclusive. And just because you want to be exlusive, doesn't mean he'll take his profile down. If you want to take yours down, go ahead, it doesn't mean anything more than you want it to mean. But don't expect him to feel the same way.
I think there is a difference between 'offering' to pay your share or to pay for it all and actually getting to do that. Some guys appreciate the gesture yet are happy to turn you down.
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