6 dates - Confused about this guy and have a hard time reading him

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Registered: 06-09-2009
6 dates - Confused about this guy and have a hard time reading him
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Sun, 07-17-2011 - 1:43pm

I joined Match about a month ago. I received a lot of winks, emails, etc. but I wasn't interested in most until Kurt emailed me. We communicated via Match email for about a week and then exchanged numbers, talked on the phone once, texted a few times and met in person. The first date went well and later he texted me to say that I'm prettier in person. Well that was certainly very nice to say, although he doesn't really look like his pictures. He's better looking on his pictures. But still he's not bad to look at and I like him. He seems like a great dad, and in fact has more than 50% custody. We've had 6 dates altogether. He's been to my house 3 times. We seem to have the best time together while at my house (not sexually, we haven't done that yet). Of course we've made out and all, and we really seem to hit it off while kissing. But when we're out in a restaurant or at the movies, he's shows no public display of affection except when greeting me with a hug and small kiss,

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Registered: 06-09-2009

LOL! And guess who just called me? I had sent him an email last night giving him information on whether or not his son would need a passport when they drive to Canada next weekend, so he called to thank me. But it wasn't a long conversation, just a few minutes. Oh well.

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Registered: 02-23-2010

I think you are overthinking this!!

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Registered: 11-07-2007

I am a person who pretty much always moves way too fast.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

My answer is no, I don't think you should know how you feel about someone in 6 dates.

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Registered: 06-09-2009

Thanks everyone! I can't tell you how much I appreciate your comments. I guess I'm moving too fast, but that's just always the way my relationships have gone in the past. I've never really been a dater, but only have had long-term relationships, so this is all new to me.

I decided yesterday to show my profile on Match again and am having discussions with 2 more men. :-)

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Registered: 01-18-2007
I'm with San on this. Six dates is not that many. It's also good that you are taking it slow and not having sex with him yet. At least you enjoy kissing him and know there is chemistry there. For me, finding someone with whom I have a mutual romantic and sexual chemistry is rarer than hen's teeth, so that's great.

Take your time and good luck!
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Registered: 01-25-2010

Men do not take hints a direct approach is far better/

Even in my great Grandma's time men were dense in this area.

Women then had a secret weapon!

Goldfish

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Registered: 05-19-2011

I think it's going well-don't over analyze and get all out of your head about it.