about emails

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Registered: 06-01-2003
about emails
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Sat, 06-11-2005 - 1:33pm
What does it mean if a guy who writes to you for the first time asks you how long you've been on the site and then asks you in his second email if you've met anyone off the site yet after you tell him that you've only been doing on-line dating for a couple of weeks? He doesn't ask you any other questions though. I answered this man's questions honestly but I wondered why he thought it was relevant to ask. Is it just to make conversation or is he perhaps signaling that he would like to meet me? And do guys who write to you first in interest but who wait almost two days to answer your email despite having visited the site in the meantime not interested in you? If I contact someone initially I don't lose interest in them unless they say something that totally turns me off which I'm careful to not do in my emails. I am so new to this and would appreciate some feedback.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ising101
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 11:37pm
I agree with JAHD - nearly all newbies disappear on me as soon as the BBD winks their way. I'll never initiate contact with a newbie for that reason.
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Registered: 06-01-2003
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 9:02am
Well, I don't know about other people but I don't disappear on people and actually notify them if I think we're not a good match after corresponding with them, which is rare since I don't begin contact people who I'm initially not that interested in. I finally got in touch with him Sunday afternoon after 3 days of no word from him. I logged onto my messenger and I saw that he added me onto his contact list without me knowing so I added him and said hi and that I wasn't sure if he got my email (in his personal inbox by the way and not on the site). He said that he saw it but did not have a chance to respond since his grandfather died and his father had major surgery and I gave him the benefit of the doubt. We chatted for quite a while until I ended the conversation. He seemed eager to talk to me. I gave him all the signs that I want to meet him soon (asked him if he knows a particular restaurant and if he works in the city where I work) but he didn't ask for my number so I just said that I'd like to chat with him again soon and ended it at that. I'm not sure what his interest level is so I will just keep on forming new contacts.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:40am

Ising-


I really hate to sound so pessimistic..because it typically is in my nature to be positive.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:45am
I agree...
I want that, too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:22pm

I feel a new profile coming on .... "worldsgreatestexcuses" ..

-my computer keeps crashing when I try to email you
-couldn't find your phone number
-work is crazy
-life is hectic/busy
-kids are not behaving
-my cell phone never rang
-no your email didn't come through
-I went to bed early - that's why I couldn't answer the phone

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:28pm

(cont)

-didn't you see that I put "friends first" in my profile
-I'm not looking for anything serious now
-my life is so busy I don't have time for a relationship
-I can't get a babysitter

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2003
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:56pm
Yeah, I get the same feeling too. I'm not good at rejection from men but am learning to take it better with this on-line dating thing. It just confuses me why someone would wink at you first, email you and add you to his buddy list if he had little interest in you in the first place. I don't do that. I block anyone I don't want to converse with. I'm not going to initiate contact with him again if I see him on instant messenger and I'll see what he does. There are a couple of other guys I have in rotation so I'm optimistic that something will come of my subscription.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:54pm

Well if there's a contest for "bizarre people who write one email and are never heard from again" -- I'm applying to win it....

got this gem a day or two ago...emailed back asking for a picture. Never heard boo.

--------EMAIL --------

Here's a tip: When my youngest (5 yrs old) notices that one of her "paintings" (usually monochromatic, up & down brush strokes covering the entire sheet of paper) is missing, I simply say, "Daddy took it to work to hang up in his office". She smiles, I take the trash out (before she looks inside the can) and call him to tell him he "has" her artwork proudly displayed where all can see. And you've got part of that wrong - they know where one shoe of each pair is........ and "I put my glove in my bag after the game.....", but the coach called and has it in the back of his car because he found it in the dugout!

I could go on and on - and probably would if not stopped. I know it is scary for you to resond to an e-mail that has no picture or profile to see, but aren't we all here on a bit of a chance. And personally, I think I am worth a chance...... at least that is what my mother would say. :o)

So, who am I? My name is xxx, I am xxx, blonde (but not a typical blonde - I know that whiteout does not work on a computer screen), brown eyes. I am divorced (only once). I live in xxx but come equipped with my original yyy accent (or so I am told). I do not smoke (have never even tried it), I enjoy a frozen, fruity girly drink on occasion. I have 3 darling, wonderful children (HA!) - 2 girls ages x & y and an z yr old son (he comes equipped with the signs of being a middle boy child with two sisters that are super athletes - more on that some other time). I coach little league baseball in the spring and U12 girls travel team soccer in the fall. I have my belly button pierced (I know you list that as a turnoff, but trust me....... no, never mind that for now either!) - I had it done recently and I love it.

What am I looking for? As cheezy as it sounds - pretty much exactly what you wrote. I am looking for a man who loves his kids - first and foremost - and understands that mine are my world...... and who wants to blend them all together and enjoy the chaotic mess it becomes!! I want someone to share it all with - the simple pleasures that others take for granted.... smiling when you hear his car come into the driveway at the end of the day.... sharing a slow dance in the kitchen as you make dinner together.... playing hookey one day in Boston, as you walk holding hands.... a man who is not afraid of that "I couldn't wait another minute to kiss you" kiss in public. The little things. I am not into what money can buy, I am into what life has to offer. I would rather be in jeans & a tshirt than a dress and nylons (have you ever worn nylons......... God, I hope not!!). I can dress up for a night out, but cherish that rainy Sunday on the couch together watching movies.

Wow, I have never written that much before....... and at 11:00 at night!! So, if I have at all grabbed your attention, say 'hi' and I will level the playing field with a picture or two. I hope you decide to take the chance.

xxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 3:08pm

LG,

You ALWAYS crack me up! The new profile of "Worldsgreatestexcuses" was great! I love your sense of humor.

Sunshine

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: ising101
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 3:55pm

Bachelor #1: