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| Sun, 03-20-2005 - 4:58pm |
What is everyone finding regarding OLD message activity. Are you getting more, less or about the same the last few weeks?
| Sun, 03-20-2005 - 4:58pm |
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I am finding that the same people keep winking at me....I thought you could only wink at someone once in 30 days.
I've had about the same as usual... 2 messages or less per week. I'm officially done for now, I've removed all my profiles from yahoo, match & singleparentsmingle. In 4 months, OLD has been pretty fruitless for me. I'm thinking I just need to embrace singlehood for now and focus on my own self-improvement. Now that it's going to get warmer, I'll be out & about more and maybe improve the odds of meeting people more spontaneously.
By the way LG - I love the new pic. :)
In the last couple of weeks I've received a total of two
My profile is still at match but I haven't "logged in" for over 3 wks, and lately I'm receiving approx. 2/wk winks from weirdos, old folks, guys from over 500 miles away... uh, I know match must pushed my profile to the very very end of the list, and those who wink at me are desperate people??!! hmm..
Oh, and matchmaker I log in like twice a month had a message from a guy, to which I didn't respond. He looked o.k., I just didn't feel any attraction from his profile. (and I'm dating w/ a guy who was the only one I subscribed match for!) This guy wrote again and again 4 times in total, and the last one said, "Hey you! respond me, you'll find I'm fun." I'm stubborn, if someone tries hard to make me respond, I get determined not to answer!
I have found that I am having much more success now than in the past. When I was into OLD from Dec/03 to July/04 I maybe got one to two e-mails and maybe 3 or 4 smiles (same as a wink) a month. I have been back at this now for 5 or 6 weeks and have received about 20 smiles and 5 or 6 e-mails and most have replied to e-mails I have initiated as well which brings it up to about 12 (I e-mailed 6 men). When I went back into this time around I really put a lot of thought into my profile. I know it may sound a lot like other profiles on most sites but compared to ones in my local area it doesn't so maybe that is what is getting me the response - or maybe its because Spring is in the air....who knows....I am not going to complain though.
mom of 2
I thought I would give match another try since my breakup and my membership offically ends tomorrow. There had been a huge difference in the number of emails I received from the last time I gave it a try in Oct/Nov. This past month I probably received one to two emails a day and nothing more than 5 per day. Yes, there were some days where I received nothing. But last Oct/Nov was great. The first two weeks I had received anywhere from 15 to 25 emails a day within the first two weeks. Of course out of all of that, there was possibly 1 to 2 I would communicate with. I thought that perhaps people were taking a break from it. I know I will for a month or so. When pulling weeds in the backyard sounds more tempting than a date, you know it is time to take a break.
However, the good news is that from this last month there is approximately 4 guys that I have been keeping in regular contact with. So we will see. No fireworks, but I am taking that as possibly a good sign. A good way to take it nice and slow. However, two of these guys are moving into my neighborhood, that might be just a little too close for comfort. But I guess summers at the pool may be very interesting.
Hi lg,
Well, I was thinking we were in a 'low' period because of Spring Breaks across the country, and many people are off doing things with their children. The beginning of this month was kinda sparse, but things seem to be rolling back up.
I guess I have not been as active on OLD (as I was spending my time being STUPID! :P ), but this past weekend I sent out a few winks, and got replies from all of them, and now I have dates with 2 of the New Ones this week, and one more to respond to, tonight. I think that before summer comes, people are going to want to try to find someone to enjoy that season with.
I have had about the same amount of winks and emails, approximately 20 a week, but...they have been from as far away as Colorado, too!
Here's to Good Times to Come!
truly,
Cupcake
Edited 3/21/2005 10:53 pm ET ET by cupcakechic
Hey Phoenix, I am right behind you with the very same thoughts !
My Match membership expires latter April and have absolutely no plans of renewing.
I have finally accepted the fact (that after trying old briefly last fall and then again since the beginning of February) that I am never going to meet a gentleman of substance and/or sincerity, using old methods.
In recent weeks, my profile has been set to hidden, more than to visible mode and justifiably so. I believe it was NWW that once said in a previous post/message thread that old can be a very degrading/demoralizing experience. I was very optimistic at the onset of trying old for a second time around, however my old experiences these past 6 weeks have sucked me dry of that optimistic attitude. Yup,for someone who has been known all of her life as never being a "quitter", I guess I've finally met my match... And for what its worth, in re: to activity levels, LG was totally right on the money when he once said, "you'll get tons of winks & emails in the beginning because of being a new face".
I did everything that a person is suppose to do to make old more effective; changed my username, posted a diverse array of photos (head n' full length body shots), even revised the written portion of my profile so that it would be more reader friendly, even sent very polite courtesy responses to men that had taken the time to send an email that hadn't been written in distasteful content,
above all I was totally open & honest in representing myself and what it was that I was searching for in a gentleman.
Throughout so many of the posts that I've read on this board these past several months, I've seen alot of referencing to the "expect nothing" approach to online dating and to wear an armadillo shield and that this is the way to prevent oneself from getting hurt etc. . I have to be honest, I tried applying that mindset to my old experiences and it didn't work unfortunately. So the brass tax of the matter is that I guess I'm just not meant to be a user of old. At this current point in time I feel that perhaps its just healthier for me to be a Singleton than to invest so-o-o much personal time & energy into an activity that hasn't produced any positive results.
"I'm getting off of the Old Cruise Ship as soon as it makes port near dry land " (LOL)
LM :)
P.S.> I just read today, in one of the ivillage articles entitled,
Online Daters Beware, How to Avoid Married Men Online , written
by Sherry Amatenstein, the article states that "Around 40% of the
guys online are misrepresenting themselves in some way."
Ladies if you haven't yet read this article, is is definately a 'must read'.
Seems to be I am getting less response
My activity has slowed some since right after I put out the new picture on Match and was getting 5 or more winks and several emails per week, but I am still probably getting 2-3 winks and an email or so a week. I still have 5 matches at open communication on eHarmony now but I think that I will probably close at least one that it has been like pulling teeth to get him to communicate even though he was all gung-ho at first.
I'm with you thyst - even tho this one guy that contacted me wasn't 23 years older, he was 11 and I specifically state that I am looking for someone 30-39 and he is 45. THAT and he asked me out right in the initial email. Ummm, no.
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