Activity Levels Update

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Activity Levels Update
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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 4:58pm
What is everyone finding regarding OLD message activity. Are you getting more, less or about the same the last few weeks?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 2:20pm

I'm getting zero activity. Then again, I've had my profile hidden for a couple of months now! :)

I'm sorry to hear of people's being bummed out with dating in general and OLD in particular. I am still a believer that OLD can work; it's worked for me a few times.

Is there a "trick" to it? I don't know. I do think that we all tend to be more picky when doing the OLD thing, and that if anything the *reverse* is what we should do- be LESS picky and go on more first meetings.

By doing that more frequently with more people, we get more relaxed and attach less importance to the process. One thing I notice about nearly everyone here, even the guys (although us guys do it to a lesser extent) is that we tend to put a lot of importance and lay a lot of expectations upon our "dates".

I think that this leads us down the path towards feeling crappy about the entire process, because let's face it- the odds are that we're not going to find someone we want to have an LTR with right off the bat. Odds are we're going to have to have several first dates, maybe dozens of them, before we happen to hit upon someone that we're "in sync" with enough that we want to see them a lot more.

I know it was like that for me. I met lots of women via OLD, sending emails and so forth. I wound up meeting lots of women via OLD. By "lots" I would guess that I averaged around 1 to 1.5 "first meetings" a week. (Some times it'd be a couple in a week, sometimes I'd go a few weeks or a month without meeting anyone.)

All I can say is that if it can work for me, it can work for almost anyone. ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 5:12pm
Hmmm, the activity here has been very S-L-O-W in the past weeks. I changed my profile and pictures so that could be something to consider. People wink for no reason, not even looking at what my profile says. Anyhow, I ignore them if they live more than 50 miles away or if they're separated. Currently, I have 2 matches that I'll possibly meet in the following weeks.
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Registered: 01-01-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 8:35pm
Work those winks Girl!!!!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 8:41pm

Hey Chloe!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 5:30pm
Hi Sparkle, I'm doing fairly well. Good luck in your coffe date!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 7:48pm
iteach, you are receiving an incredible OLD response, compared to what I have seen others here post about their success. What is your secret?

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