advice please

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2003
advice please
Tue, 07-01-2003 - 10:50pm
Hello everyone. I am new to the board and need some advice. I have only been single for ten months. I am 42 and new to metting men. I have met men over the last ten months mostly thru the net. I live in a reomte area in the panhandle of texas and I just moved her about ten months ago. I have read and heard a lot of advice on whether or not to all a man.

I met a man thur the personals about nine months ago, we chated a while and had planned on meeting, but I canceled. We never reall chatted again, untill two weeks ago. I sent him a hello note via the personals and he wrote me back and we chatted two night on msn, then he invited me to come and meet him at his place. I actually had seen him before and new off him through friends, thats why I felt comfortable meeting him at his home. Anyway, the visit went well. I felt comfortable with him and he also seemed the same way. WE kinda talked about waht we wanted from relationships. He is very cautious because his ex wife was unfaithful. I told him that I didn't want to bring any man into my childrens life unless I felt thier was going to be a long term relationship. We seemed to click pretty good.

When I was getting ready to leave, he told me if I needed anything give him a call and to keep in touch. He asked me for a hug and we did and then he kissed me. Again before I lest he hugged me and kissed me and told me it felt good me being thier. That was a week ago last sunday. He went out of town that floowing day after we met and told me he would be back the next weekend. Anyway, I never gave him my number. I have'nt seen him on msn either. I want to call and talk with him, but then I don't want to be pushy. What is your advice. With this being an internet meeting, do the date rules apply? I like him, but don't want to be pushy. thanks for any advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2002
In reply to: mariemwy
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 1:21am
Good Evening Marie -

I am new to this whole internet dating thing I really don't have any real advice for you. If I were in your shoes, I would send him an e-mail to see how he is doing. Maybe he got caught up while he was out of town and needed to stay longer than expected...but who knows. Like I said, I would send him an e-mail!!! You will be in my thoughts and prayers!!!

God Bless Ya Sister


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2003
In reply to: mariemwy
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 9:55am
Well, if you didnt give him your number, then how can he call you? Maybe he was not on MSn cause he thought you two were starting something in person. I am sure that he is waiting on you to call or maybe he is just busy. I would definitely give him a ring and just say you forgot to give him your number and maybe you two can go out again. That is it. That isnt pushy, just being friendly is all. Nothing wrong with that. Then, if he does not call you back after you leave a message or invite him out again, then I would say he is not interested. Atleast give him the benefit of the doubt here. He is probably interested and just waiting for you to call. Try it and see. You never know!



Keep us posted!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mariemwy
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 12:29pm
I agree with Gail, I would give him a call. If no answer leave a message with your number then the ball is in his court.