Advice please

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Registered: 05-20-2010
Advice please
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Thu, 05-20-2010 - 5:54pm
A girl I met online but never met turned out to be someone else. talked to her almost a year. She never asked me for anything or harmed me, she did send me things, little things, but pretended she was ill so I couldnt see her. I loved her. I was more than convinced we had a future. She actually was very kind to me always.
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Registered: 09-18-2009
In reply to: sam2u49
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 1:44pm

Love is such an overused, misunderstood, slippery, and sometimes meaningless word.


I believe that "love" can only go so far if you have never met the person.

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Registered: 05-20-2010
In reply to: sam2u49
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 12:47pm
Yes thats good advice. I know that now. Thing is she really did/does love me, we spent every waking hour talking, etc. She'd make sure I had little things, always gave me encouragement on life etc, helped me alot in alot of ways.
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Registered: 07-21-2008
In reply to: sam2u49
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 11:43pm

I doubt if misrepresenting yourself online is against the law, unless you are trying to extort money from someone.

Why would you continue to correspond with someone for nearly a year without meeting in person? You can't really know whether you will be compatible with someone until you meet in person. It's best to do this within a couple weeks after first contact.

Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. What you think you know about that person is just words on paper. You have no way to know if they are being sincere (or honest). You are simply building up a fantasy about what you think that person is like, and how it will be when you finally meet.

Chances are someone who makes excuses not to meet is either married or otherwise taken. They are just having fun. Seems cruel, but I'm sure there are those out there who do this.

In the future, don't waste your time. Find out early whether there is any real connection.