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| Fri, 03-23-2007 - 6:00pm |
OK, I haven't posted about this yet b/c usually it seems like as soon as I do that, something happens so I'm just SURE that mentioning it jinxes the thing, but OK, I'll give it a shot.
I've actually met a guy from Match. I have NINE days left on my 6 month deal - "meet someone special in 6 months or get 6 months free" - hehe. Anyway, I initiated contact with him almost two weeks ago. We emailed a couple times and exchanged phone numbers. He called me on a Wednesday and we had a 45 minute phone convo (and I HATE talking on the phone). We talked about meeting but didn't set up a specific day. He called me again on Sunday and we decided to meet the next day (this Monday) for drinks. This was after another long-ish call - huh.
Anyway, we met Monday and surprisingly enough, he looked like his pictures, was about the height he said he was and was attractive and funny! We had a couple beers at a hole in the wall bar and ended the evening with a nice hug and talk of doing it again, but again no set plan. But I played it cool.
He called on Wed. and we again had a long-ish call and talked about getting together again, but didn't settle on a day. But he called from work yesterday and asked if I wanted to go watch one of the Sweet 16 NCAA basketball games. So I decided that since all I had was a hot date with the treadmill at the gym and cleaning my bathroom that "Rules" be damned, I'll accept the last minute date. I'm glad I did b/c I had a really good time, great conversation and the night ended with an even better hug and more talk of doing it again.
I emailed him today and got almost an immediate response. He said he had a great time last night too and said he thought it was really cool that I did something I might not normally do (watching the game - I like basketball but don't much care about these teams).
So far, this guy is doing a LOT right which is both scary and great. We already talked some about previous relationships, about OLD in general and both agree that after a couple dates that it's only the polite thing to do to tell the person if you're not interested in seeing them anymore (so I'm not afraid he'll ghost). I'm still emailing others and keeping things in check, but it's nice that I've actually met a decent guy! Who knows what will happen, but for all of you that know my trials and tribulations (or even if you don't), keep your fingers cautiously optimistically crossed for me!

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Hey, glad to hear it! I'm sprinkling some magic dust on this post to give you good luck, LOL!!!
I had date 3 with a guy I like (ok, am really attracted to, ha!) but am not sure how much I have in common with--we may get together this weekend, but he's got a whole bunch of kids so his schedule is pretty wonky. I'm meeting a new guy in about 30 minutes for drinks--he sounds cool but you never know.
Sheri
Thanks Sheri! Magic dust back at you!
Great thing about "my" guy is that I am attracted AND we seem to have a lot in common. We're in very similar places in our lives and it's great so far. I have learned enough from this board that I am not putting all my eggs in this basket or hoping TOO much, but so far, so good. He seems to like me and even compliments me on sweet, goofy stuff like my laugh, my curly hair and my adaptability. He pays attention to what I say which is incredible. I'm taking it one day at a time but I really have a good feeling on this one which I have NEVER had. I'm only cautiously optimistic tho.
Good luck with your date. Hope it goes well and I also hope you find more in common with 3 date guy than you thought! ;-)
Thanks--I think the magic dust worked ;-)! I had one of the best first meets last night I've ever had...the guy is very funny and nice looking and we just had a great time. We even ended up going to a 2nd place after having appetizers at the first to watch the NCAA game, and he later said, oh I didn't really care about the game, I just wanted to spend more time with you. Could be a line of course but it was still nice to hear ;-)!
He said he'd call me today and we could maybe do something Sunday so we'll see. I'm trying not to count on hearing from him of course. I've got a couple other possibilities that I will continue to pursue in addition to the 3 date guy.
I'm so glad to hear that you're having so much fun and have a good feeling about this guy. And yes, it is important that a guy pay attention to what you say--it should be a given and yet so many guys DON'T. Keep us posted.
Sheri
More magic dust to help ya along Sheri..
Maybe some will rub off on me too.
Hugs
Mark
Great! I'm glad you had such a great meet last night. That's sweet that he wanted to hang out more with you. Even if it IS a line, it was a line that showed he wanted to hang out with you more so that's great! And keep those other irons in the fire!
I haven't heard from B today, but I'm honestly not at all worried. I can't decide if that's because I feel pretty comfortable that this is going to be OK or if I am finally learning something from being out here. I'm hoping the first but who knows. I definitely don't have doubt that he likes me (he was very affectionate and complimentary on our last date), but I'm playing it cool.
Thanks Mark, but unfortunately, it looks like the magic dust wore off...no call from the guy from last night (and he said specifically that he'd call today). Oh well, I should have known that was too good to be true and known better than to allow myself to really hope he'd call.
Sheri
Well, I hope things continue to go well for you. As I just posted to Mark, I haven't heard from the guy from last night and it's bumming me out more than I like to admit. I really thought I'd hear from him. Oh well.
I had an opportunity to do a first meet tonight but I just wasn't feeling up for it so I punted.
I'm leaving Wed on a 10 day road trip to CA so I will be taking a much needed break from all this. I'll be having dinner in SF with the guy I was dating last winter who moved to CA and didn't want to do a LDR--we've kept in touch as friends and have seen each other a couple times when he's been up here to see his son. So that will be good although somewhat bittersweet--he's a good guy, the timing and circumstances just weren't right. But we're going to one of the best restaurants in SF so that will be great, I'm really looking forward to it! And I'll be seeing two Ivillage friends on the trip, yea ;-).
Sheri
Hi Sheri,
I just wanted to wish you a safe trip. Sounds like a lot of fun. Is there a possiblity of a rekindled romance?
Also, the other guy may still call. You never know what may have come up.
Have a great trip next week. Let me know how it goes : )
(And take plenty of angels and white light with you, as my mama always says :)
C
Gal Blondie
Aww, Sheri, I'm sorry to hear that. I know that you are very much into people keeping their word, but I hope he calls again anyway.
I sent B a text this afternoon and just when I was getting a little bummed b/c he hadn't responded, he did and then called. He's still hanging in there and doing things right so I'm playing things by ear.
Have an awesome trip to California! Are you going to make it to wine country? That's MY favorite destination in northern Cali! ;-) Have a great time meeting some fellow iVillagers and with the guy you dated. Sometimes it's nice just to be with someone that you enjoy being with.
Thanks! I like your mom's saying ;-).
No, there's really not a chance of rekindling the romance with this guy due to the long distance and his parenting obligations. And when I saw him around Christmas, he'd started seeing someone who lives down there, in any event. So we are just meant to be friends, I guess and that's fine--I really like him as a person so I'm glad we are still in touch.
Sheri
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