After the first meeting...

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Registered: 03-17-2006
After the first meeting...
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:33am

Hi all,

I was just wondering about contacting someone after a first meeting. I thought our date went well. He hinted around doing something again. He also said it'll be easier to "connect" now that the holidays are over and we're back in town.

The day after the date (which was Sat. night,) I sent this email:

Good morning, _____!

Hopefully you didn't have an unpleasant wake up call today! :OP (something we talked about on our date) I just wanted to thank you again for supper last night. It is greatly appreciated! How exciting that I can now say I've been to (insert the place we went)! :)

It's also nice to now be able to put a face with a name and a voice! :)

Have a lovely rest of the day!

So far I haven't heard back and I'm wondering if I should keep waiting or if I should call just to say hi. (A couple of my guy friends suggested doing this.) Is either one more OLD etiquette?

Thank you!
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 10:20am

No, don't call. It has nothing to do with OLD etiquette, it has to do with him showing interest without being prodded into it. He clearly knows you're interested from your email. If he's interested, he'll call.

In the meantime, it's important to email and set up meets with other guys so you're not so focused on this one guy.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 10:32am

Agree, if he's interested he will call you for another date.

Avatar Image"The Small Peanu
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 2:27pm

I agree with Sheri and Peanut. One email of thanks is enough. And your email was slightly over-effusive - a simple "thanks for dinner, I really enjoyed meeting you" is enough without the "greatly appreciated" and "how excitng" stuff. But that's JMHO.

Also, no more communication or calls. You put the ball back in his court with your email. If he's interested, not only did he get your email, but he knows how to get a hold of you on his own accord. And you don't "keep on waiting". You sent the email and you're done. You move on assuming that you may not ever hear from him again - you "wait" for no one. Get out there, meet other guys and move on. If he does come back around, fine - you can decide to go out with him then. But if he doesn't contact you, oh well.

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:09pm

Thanks for all of your thoughts!

One of you hit it on the head - I have been treated to dinner but never without any expectations or as much kindness as I was this time. Something new and different!

I know that most guys are chasers who love "the game" of dating. This guy doesn't seem to be, which is part of the reason why I was pondering what to do as well.

I will continue to chill and live my life. :)

Gracias!

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