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| Wed, 07-06-2005 - 5:06pm |
I am married now, but some of my single gfs do online dating and they say that men 20 - 30 years older than they are, contact them all the time. They are not interested in dating a man old enough, or almost old enough, to be their Dad. They all want a guy within 5 or so years of their own age. So my girlfriend who is 30, said even a guy 10 years older than her is not really what she wants.

I’m 35. My last BF was 36. Dating two men now, one that just turned 37 and the other that just turned 40. Yes I get men 20+ years writing me and men who are way to young for me to date as well. OLD takes time, someone they are interested in – in their age range WILL turn up. You can’t say everyone on OLD is way out of their age criteria – have a little patience; the wheel wasn’t created overnight, wink!
SP
I do have a tendency to ramble. I guess my question was, are guys being unrealistic if they are trying to date someone who could be their daughter. Is it a mid-life crisis thing?
Then one of my friends found out that her 45 year old bf put up an online ad, with his preferred age range as "22 to 32". So he wants someone 13 to 20 years younger than him. WOW! That's a big leap. I just wonder if guys are shooting themselves in the foot with this.
I agree with you and thanks for the clarification – wasn’t sure where you were going so I took a wild guess which was wrong, ha – oh well.
I have asked men that question if they are in their late 40’s and wont date someone over 32 for example they said it’s because they don’t want the pressure of rushing into marriage and pregnancy, they want to date for 2 years, get engaged then travel. Funny how these men think their sperm will be ok into their 50’s and if you do some research that��s really not the case, you’re odds of down syndrome etc increase on the men’s side as well. If fact I dated a DR two years ago that said if he wasn’t’ married by the time he was 40 he wasn’t’ have kids for that reason.
I’m sure their are some that want the trophy GF, feel their money or status earns them that. There are some that are merely delusional – absolutely! My GF worked at a dating service in Chicago and she’d had middle aged, fat balding men wanting a Cameron Diaz type and she’d laugh – they seriously thought they could get it and they weren’t rich either, ha!
Oh well, you can just laugh – it’s their issues not yours!
Cheers,
SP
Edited 7/6/2005 5:56 pm ET ET by small_peanut2005
<< I guess my question was, are guys being unrealistic if they are trying to date someone who could be their daughter. Is it a mid-life crisis thing? >>
There are lots of different reasons. Sure, it might be a mid-life crisis, but most likely it will be something else. Some guys may want a much younger woman because they have always wanted a big family, and this may not be possible with a woman in her mid 30's or older. Many men see examples of an older man/much younger woman in Hollywood and feel like they can do the same. Some guys just think having a young hottie on their arm means "they still got it".
I am not looking for a woman way younger than me -- I don't think it could ever work long term because of differences in maturity and/or place in life. I would go 6 or so years younger or older, with that not being set in stone. Many times it just depends on the person.
One other thing - always remember men are *such* visual creatures, and since beauty is so greatly associated with youth, it's somewhat natural that guys will try to get a young 20-something even if they are 45. I know it's not right, (because I've seen *many* women in their 30's, 40's, and 50's that are way sexier than those college age girls) -- but it will always be that way. Just let these guys keep dreaming and look for the guys who are more grounded in reality and who are looking for a great woman closer to their own age.
Good luck to you :)
Eric